tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post1470301592352990802..comments2024-01-28T22:16:42.451-08:00Comments on Dear Little Auntie: He loves me...He loves me not....?Little Auntiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16279010843700950235noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-87072757919978337772013-01-23T18:44:34.301-08:002013-01-23T18:44:34.301-08:00Assalamu'alaykum~!!
SubhanAllah..
A great &#...Assalamu'alaykum~!!<br /><br />SubhanAllah..<br /><br />A great 'head-knock-knock' for me here..<br /><br />There shouldn't be any relationships before marriage !<br />And dear self, you are more WORTHY than anything, than the 'cheap' love (Love with non-mahram boys outside marriage :P )<br /><br />Shouldn't trust men saying them loving you, when they don't even dream of marrying you. They are not serious, just playing around with us. They would have gushed, rushed to marry us if they are serious and such a God-fearing man.. Allahul musta'an :/<br /><br />May Allah save us all from the evils! Amin :D<br /><br />Love all of you fillah :DUmm Teemhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06823444218316094767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-52950657476411571172012-05-16T21:54:36.937-07:002012-05-16T21:54:36.937-07:00Reading this has put me into tears. Now I'm st...Reading this has put me into tears. Now I'm struggling to let him go. Allahu, give me the strength-EA-noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-59671865524540752682011-10-23T03:39:38.057-07:002011-10-23T03:39:38.057-07:00Yes, he was definitely disrespectful to me. I am s...Yes, he was definitely disrespectful to me. I am still in shock because I could never understand why someone would hurt me so much when I have never even came close to even hurting them. Alhamdulillah..removing him from my life shows Allah still loves me no matter how much i have sinned :'(Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-3212234692661692332011-10-21T00:51:24.539-07:002011-10-21T00:51:24.539-07:00Dearest Anonymous,
I'm sorry that things ended...Dearest Anonymous,<br />I'm sorry that things ended up this way, but you are very right that you can emerge from this a stronger woman. Yes, sweetie, now is the time to ask for strength from Allah and to take this time to come closer to Him and appreciate more the wisdom and LOVE He has for you and the reason that He set these rules for us. b<br /><br />I do want to say that guy's behavior was completely disrespectful to you and to say that 'he would be with someone else because he didn't see a future with you' is really not the right way to bring up the topic. <br /><br />Alahmdillah, today is a NEW DAY and a new start.Little Auntiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16279010843700950235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-55052960210609934392011-10-20T19:43:28.448-07:002011-10-20T19:43:28.448-07:00Assalamualaikum sisters,
I am "anonymous&quo...Assalamualaikum sisters,<br /><br />I am "anonymous" - the one who sent the email to Dear Little Auntie. First and foremost I want to thank Auntie for keeping my anonymity :) Even though this email was sent to Auntie a long while ago (I think it was early this year or last year?), I just feel like updating what has happened after this email.<br /><br />So I have just discovered a few weeks ago that he has yet again cheated on me. This time it was really the creme-de-la-creme, he actually dared to go out in public with a girl. I found out from a friend who came up to him and asked where I was and he only told her not tell me. I was, expectedly devastated by all this and the fact that I cannot believe he has done it to me again. And to think that so far he has shown me he loves me but there was still that feeling thaat something wasn't right - I should have trusted my guts. when I confronted him, he insisted to me that she was "just a friend" - but I know better.<br /><br />It is still shocking to me, the reason I still stayed with him (even after my email here), was because he promised that we will get married and he even gave me hope here and there (for example talking about our future so certainly), that I really was confident he wanted it the same way I wanted it. To be honest I couldn't wait for us to be together that would finally be Islamically acceptable.<br /><br />Did I mention he is actually not a muslim? He even talked about converting and so on in the past, so I never thought it would be an issue. Even his siblings have converted to Islam, and we live in a community/ country with very strong Islamic beliefs. Many non-muslims in our country convert. So it was never an issue.<br /><br />So when I confronted him on the fact that he went out with someone, he suddenly told me the reason was because, "Honestly, I don't see a future with you." It really shocked me. Then he told me he doesn't EVER want to convert so it is pointless for the relationship to carry on. So going out with the girl was the way to bring this topic? If he really had doubts, he shouldn't have led me on all these years, making me think otherwise. He should have came to me, have an honest conversation, NOT hurting me that way.<br /><br />To make it short, we are not together anymore. Recently he greeted me on a really special occasion of mine (I cannot disclose for fear of risking my anonymity), and at the end of the message, he said "I love you". I don't know what to think of him anymore. He is one confused man and I am thankful to Allah for showing me his true colours. During the breakup, he even told me he didn't wanna work it out anymore, he said he was not inspired to convert because he accused me of not being a good muslim, in his own words with a sarcastic tone, "Do you even pray 5 times a day?". I know I am not a perfect muslim, but it doesn't mean he can insult me so much that I blamed myself for his actions after that.<br /><br />You were right Auntie, I should've listened to my heart, and that would've spared me this last heartache. But I'll take this opportunity to pray and askfor strength from God and insyaAllah, I will emerge a stronger woman from all this. I am only in my early 20s, there is so much more life to live. And next time, if a man loves me and he is not a muslim, he should love my God too, not use the excuse of me not being a good muslim to cover up his real bad behaviour.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-36145390680028085732011-06-06T18:27:15.818-07:002011-06-06T18:27:15.818-07:00I feel like I had a lot of friends go through some...I feel like I had a lot of friends go through some form of that or another when they were younger or in case of some are still going through it. It's a very difficult experience when you're going through it. But when they look back at it they're glad things worked out the way they did.<br /><br />I believe if emotions are clouding your judgement for something like this, that you need to step back,end all contact and just pray to God, and if its a path for you then it will open on its own. Cuz God will guide you toward what is best insh'Allah.controlled chaoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01629192209542218228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-57300911529542644512011-06-06T17:13:39.151-07:002011-06-06T17:13:39.151-07:00Salam sisters..
an uztaz once told me, "If th...Salam sisters..<br />an uztaz once told me, "If that guy is pious and he loves you for Allah sake, he would want to marry you ASAP! :). He will never dare to come close to you, try to talk to you, etc because he has no right over you" <br /><br />...if you go to diamond store, what do you see??..these diamonds are stored inside the glass-protective case...not to forget with the surveillance camera on 24/7..in some places they even hire security guards with guns to just stand outside the store...and not everyone dare to come in because they know the price of the diamonds is expensive..and they cudn't afford it..Sister (in case no one tell you this) you are more valuable than pearls and diamonds....so before you let any guy came into your life, he must first get through the security guards, surveillance camera, have the money to actually buy the diamonds (what i meant is here is the process of getting married with you :D )<br /><br />May Allah make our hearts close to Him<br /><br />your sister muffin mel...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-5120145497684610772011-06-06T04:54:41.945-07:002011-06-06T04:54:41.945-07:00Assalam alykum. firstly I want to comfort the anon...Assalam alykum. firstly I want to comfort the anonymous sister. I can imagine how much she suffered of him and confused to headache. <br /><br /> It will be hard but try to think apart from your emotion. Even if a girl and boy met as thought it was dramatic destiny, Their parents like their relationship, felt really close to each other and everything was first time to each other(fall in love, first kiss etc)... <br /><br /> Those were just useless and painful when he quit to be respect the girl and never try to be responsible. Even he said bad stuff of her to his friends after breaking up. That was it. <br /> Thats what happened to me and many girls in my country. I hope you to cherish yourself and stay away from a person who lies to you. <br /> As auntie said,it will be good to engage with islamically lawful relationship. I am sorry if i said anything rude due to my short in knowledge:( <br /> Mat Allah bless you and protect from all evils.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com