tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post1978262454058005082..comments2024-01-28T22:16:42.451-08:00Comments on Dear Little Auntie: What if I Take it Off?!Little Auntiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16279010843700950235noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-12854936117809284512014-02-11T19:30:00.694-08:002014-02-11T19:30:00.694-08:00This is where the difficulties usually come in. Fo...This is where the difficulties usually come in. For many sisters, it truly is a jihad. I remember very vividly how scared I was the first day I put on the headscarf and went out into public. As long as you are just wearing the modest clothes, nobody has to know that you are a Muslim. Once you complete your hijab with the headscarf, you are suddenly announcing to everyone who sees you that "I am a Muslim". Here is some advice based on my own experiences. <br /><br />Wear it for the sake of Allah SWT <br /><br />Various statements are made about why you should wear hijab, such as for modesty or for protection, but the real reason that we wear hijab is that Allah SWT has commanded it. Whenever anyone asks you, why do you dress like that, that's the only answer you need to give them. <br /><br />Wear it for the hope of Jannah <br /><br />Allah SWT makes tests for us in this world. He makes things difficult for us. He wants to see if we will remember Him, if we will have faith in Him, and if we will trust in Him. These qualities are what is meant by "sabr". <br /><br />So that's what you should set your mind to. Yes, it's difficult to wear hijab. You may be rejected by your family or your friends, you may face harassment and persecution or be fired from your job. These are very scary thoughts. But if you have sabr and keep trusting in Allah SWT, I swear to you sister, this is the path to Jannah, and when you look back on the Day of Qiyamah you will know that it was worth it and have no regrets. <br /><br />Wear it today and trust in Allah SWT for tomorrow <br /><br />What do I mean by that? What I mean is that you should take it one day at a time, or even one outing at a time. Sometimes the future seems to stretch on forever and ever and you don't think you can make it that long. You want to give up before you even begin. <br /><br />So sometimes the best thing to do is to keep you mind focused on what is immediately at hand. Allah SWT will take care of the future. If you have to go out to the market, then concentrate on being able to wear hijab just for this activity and on getting through it. If you do get through it and nothing bad happened, then give thanks to Allah SWT for making it easy for you, and turn your mind to your next outing. <br /><br />Or if you have to go out to school or work, then concentrate on being able to wear hijab just for this one day and on getting through it. And give thanks to Allah SWT when you have made it, and turn your mind to the next day. <br /><br />Eventually the outings will turn into days and the days into weeks, and the weeks into months. One day you will realize that you have been wearing hijab for quite a long time and it isn't really as bad as you feared, and Allah SWT helped you get through it. Don't be ashamed. Sometimes it is like this. The most important thing is to have sabr and keep your trust in Allah SWT always. <br /><br />Wear it and spite the shaytan <br /><br />My dear sister, the worries and fears in your mind are the whisperings of the shaytan. He wants to talk you out of obeying Allah SWT. <br /><br />It is very easy to keep going around in circles in your mind and to dwell on all the things that could go wrong. I know that I myself have a tendency to do this, I put it off and I dither and I wait for "the perfect time". If I let myself, I would never do anything at all! <br /><br />So the thing you have to remember is that you do not need to be perfect in iman to wear hijab. If perfection were a qualification, where is the sister who could wear it?? <br /><br />You must also not fall into the trap of thinking that you should wait until all your worries and fears have disappeared. They never will! Trust me on this, sister. <br /><br />True courage is going ahead to do what's right even though you are still nervous and scared. So don't listen to the shaytan. Ignore the worries and fears he whispers into your mind. Tell him that you will not let him keep you from obeying Allah SWT and you will not let him rule your life. <br /><br />Make the decision to wear it <br /><br />Once you have come to know in your heart that you must wear hijab, then you have to set a dayAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04761653611994270424noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-76432659492258831472010-10-04T20:35:01.507-07:002010-10-04T20:35:01.507-07:00i have asked myself this question a million times!...i have asked myself this question a million times! I pray to Allah for the strength and guidance to make me a better muslimah, JezaakAllah kher for this post!Falaxyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06388232602145681323noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-41689484485040187942010-10-03T21:23:46.712-07:002010-10-03T21:23:46.712-07:00I like the answer. Especially writing down your go...I like the answer. Especially writing down your goal part. That really increases the power of an intention.<br /><br />It also helps to consider that Allah is not only Merciful but also Just. He gives people points according to the effort they put in. The more stuff you do for Allah in different parts of your life, the more you get on His scoreboard. In college, you know how important it is to be in your teachers' good books. You know all the little things you do to get there. How about all the things you can do to get in Allah's good books? That is one of the thoughts that keeps me going. I find that I just need motivational thoughts to kick out those "waswasay" (whispers) of Shaitan. It also helps to know that they are waswasay in the first place. If you think that those doubts are coming from your own heart, you begin to wonder what happened to your personality. The waswasay only increase after you start observing purdah, so you really need those thoughts in there.<br /><br />And something doesn't stop being beautiful just because it's no longer visible to the world. It's just "restricted access" ;)Comment Girlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-14658475414050561182010-10-02T22:55:12.282-07:002010-10-02T22:55:12.282-07:00Nice advice. It is also important to adorn the hij...Nice advice. It is also important to adorn the hijab because you want to and are ready. Never do it for someone else or out of peer pressure because then you will surely lose interest in it after some time. Another thing, keep your iman strong and you will never want to let go of your hijab. You are more beautiful covered - like a treasure:)Blue Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10910551980001880627noreply@blogger.com