tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post2053206337202793693..comments2024-01-28T22:16:42.451-08:00Comments on Dear Little Auntie: Lowering that GazeLittle Auntiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16279010843700950235noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-37995263554026308432014-03-01T08:26:14.353-08:002014-03-01T08:26:14.353-08:00Great response :) jazakumullah khair.Great response :) jazakumullah khair.Seeker of Guidancehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05517102944150852636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-5988571511253313632013-08-28T20:42:16.463-07:002013-08-28T20:42:16.463-07:00Ahh, nostalgia! ♥Ahh, nostalgia! ♥RevertMuslimahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02172682853483527020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-4597084661438708062012-05-30T05:27:37.278-07:002012-05-30T05:27:37.278-07:00I think that was a great adviceI think that was a great adviceAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-46197707740038928522012-01-12T03:05:11.113-08:002012-01-12T03:05:11.113-08:00Salaam sisters,
MashaAllah little auntie has giv...Salaam sisters, <br /><br />MashaAllah little auntie has given perfect advice.<br /><br />you start to like a guy you start thinking about him all the time and imgine being married and living a happy life forever. <br /><br />But then either the guy ignores you, likes someone else, or else he takes advantages of your feelings. The advantages that you never thought you'd be giving. <br /><br />At the end you are left alone and broken hearted. So it is really important to stay away as much as you can from such temptations.<br /><br />Geeting married would be great but if it is not possible, then i think it would be better as you are that young to focuse on learning the Quran especially the Tafsir you wont believe me until you try it, that when you read the tafseer it is as if Allah (swt) is guiding your way , He is personally advising you what to do.<br /><br />May Allah (swt) make it easy for you sister<br /><br />Ws Salaamrevert2004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-79351716531353599892011-12-08T08:42:25.975-08:002011-12-08T08:42:25.975-08:00Khadeeja. Lol. I loved your response even more. Sp...Khadeeja. Lol. I loved your response even more. Spontaneous suits you. And the Bollywood analogy, makes me think if you're desi :) <br /><br />Yes, It's not "adorable" to stare admiringly at a non mahram man. lowering your gaze really helps, alhamdulilah. It makes it so much easier, alhamdulilah. It really is the cure and you feel stronger and it's not as much of a fitnah.<br /><br />Making Dua to AllahSWT for your protection against the evil. SubhanAllah it's scary how many people have fallen into that mess and they did not all start with bad intention.<br /><br />Instead make dua, that AllahSWT give you a righteous husband for whom you will be a righteous wife, inshAllah, when you're ready.<br /> That always makes me feel better, alhamdulilah! It's like: no, I don't need this cheap relationship, inshAllah, I will get much better the halaal way.seekingpatiencenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-88691477992302435452011-12-07T12:26:35.858-08:002011-12-07T12:26:35.858-08:00Yeah, I think it's really important for us to ...Yeah, I think it's really important for us to remember that we were CREATED to be naturally mutually attracted to each other. Mutual attraction is a test of one's faith and commitment. <br />Always remind yourself that if you are not ready to do the the halal thing (getting the parents involved/ nikah/etc.), then there is NO point in the relationship....no matter how much you both are interested in each other. <br /><br />Khadeeja, you cracked me up :PLittle Auntiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16279010843700950235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-92113622923593117162011-12-06T09:21:05.624-08:002011-12-06T09:21:05.624-08:00Assalamu Alaikum warahmatullahi t3ala wabarakatuhu...Assalamu Alaikum warahmatullahi t3ala wabarakatuhu My favorite aunties!<br />I didnt know where to post this, and didnt want to ruin the blessed game, and the comment section on awards isnt working, hence:<br /><br />I have an award waiting for you at my blog!<br />Loads of luv from Musafirah!Musaafirahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02240543014228244925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-25539637965854876032011-12-05T20:51:39.984-08:002011-12-05T20:51:39.984-08:00Oh no, it seems I have said a whole bunch of rando...Oh no, it seems I have said a whole bunch of random, nonsensical things but have not truly answered your question.<br /><br />Ways to ignore this person, even if "attraction" is mutual.<br /><br />1) Lower your gaze.<br />If you lower your gaze, you are less likely to make eye contact with the person.<br /><br />2) Ignore them! Try to avoid them as much as possible,and if they come up to you, just walk away. If you hear them trying to say something to you, just keep walking and distract yourself. Saying "Auzubillahi Mina'shaytan-nir Rajeem" seems to work for me Alhamdulillah.<br /><br />3) If the problem persists, then I suggest you tell someone to tell them or do it directly to : LEAVE YOU ALONE! <br /><br />[ I suggest you in sha Allah be careful, and do not let him sweet talk you. It will only lead to things evil! If you are desperate/in need/ want to marry, then there are other means. So many other ways. Indeed it is hard for youth in the west to find a suitable partner and to marry, but it does not mean that we go and do HARAAM things to stay away from HARAAM. Does that make sense? NO, no it doesn't!]<br /><br />InshaAllah I hope you managed to understand something of what I've said. I apologize for it, as it's not too well written/explained but hopefully it will help a little!<br /><br />Aunties/Sisters feel free to add any comments/suggestions on this topic!<br /><br />WswrwbRevertMuslimahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02172682853483527020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-70159312874642967692011-12-05T20:44:03.624-08:002011-12-05T20:44:03.624-08:00@Anon; Mhmm, I just chose it! I really liked the s...@Anon; Mhmm, I just chose it! I really liked the sound and thought it suited me, and of course Khadeejah(RA) was a very inspirational person, and greatly loved by The Prophet Muhammed (SAW) :D<br /><br />PBH: Wa 3laikum assalam wa ra7matullahi wa barakatuhu sister! Mhmm, that's quite an interesting question, and I'm sure many would relate to it.<br /><br />Well! To start off when we think of partners we think of marriage (AT LEAST I HOPE SO!) and would we REALLY want to marry a person who doesn't respect girls, tries to get their attention and be all "flirtyflirtyIwannabeyourboo'babygirlnolongting" <br />If the answer isn't NO, then you need help further than what I can give! ( I am only kidding girls, but seriously, the answer should be no)<br /><br />In sha Allah we should want someone who is true to thDeen. Someone pious, who will help us better ourselves, etc etc. Imagine how many other girls this person has tried to get the attention of. It should put you off completely knowing that this boy/man has no respect for a Muslim sister, and that he is trying to get her attention like he's Shahrukh Khan off of some cheap bollywood movie!<br /><br />NOW, if the situation is that you have spoken, or shown some sort of "fondness' towards each other, then it's a little different. Not correct, per say, but it's a different situation. The only way that this will ever be halaal is through Marriage. <br /><br />SO, if you're not put off by the cheap pickup lines,attention grabbing hair-whips or beard massage with the eyebrows raising in the "how you doin'" way, then seek marriage with this person, before something like ZINA' happens. <br /><br />P.S. If this person tries to touch you, after you're done beating them with your shoe, remind them ;<br /><br />It was narrated that Ma’qil ibn Yassaar said: the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:<br /> <br /> “For one of you to be stabbed in the head with an iron needle is better for him than that he should touch a woman who is not permissible for him.”RevertMuslimahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02172682853483527020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-40486778555627618232011-12-05T13:11:19.950-08:002011-12-05T13:11:19.950-08:00Asalamu alaikum,
Jazakillah khair for the reply s...Asalamu alaikum,<br /><br />Jazakillah khair for the reply sister, I'm really grateful. What do you do if a guy is trying to get your attention though... and you kinda seem to like him too.<br />xoxProudBritishHijabinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-90453264408914989792011-12-05T04:00:32.099-08:002011-12-05T04:00:32.099-08:00Alhamdulillah this helps! JazakAllah!:)
Also Rever...Alhamdulillah this helps! JazakAllah!:)<br />Also Revert Muslimah, after reading your interview, I wanted to ask you how you chose Khadeeja as your name. Alhamdulillah its one of my most favorite names! :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-59677265249125374722011-12-04T17:46:42.611-08:002011-12-04T17:46:42.611-08:00Wa 3laikum assalam wa ra7matullahi wa barakatuh si...Wa 3laikum assalam wa ra7matullahi wa barakatuh sisters!<br /><br />In sha ALLAH at least one of you benefited from this answer. May ALLAH Ta'ala protect all my sweet sisters from Shaytaan and his tricks, and keep you away from Zina' and any other evil. Ameen <3<br /><br />love you all fesabilillah! ;DRevertMuslimahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02172682853483527020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-34294986567829153992011-12-04T12:38:33.278-08:002011-12-04T12:38:33.278-08:00Assalamu alaikum,
I have had this problem and I c...Assalamu alaikum,<br /><br />I have had this problem and I came across a Dua that really helped me. I'm also having an easier time with saying the truth, and other things.<br /><br />Here is the Dua that I use:<br /><br />"O Allah! Purify our souls from hypocrisy, our tongues from lying and our eyes from treachery. You know the treacherous eyes and what is buried in the hearts."<br /><br />This is from a small Dua book called "Selected Invocations" compiled by Muhammad bin Abdul-Aziz Al-Musnad.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-32530632221204851622011-12-04T03:53:54.374-08:002011-12-04T03:53:54.374-08:00I''m in a different situation, but this he...I''m in a different situation, but this helps! Thanks for the post! (:Fida Islaihhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02092246146139978450noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-34706714573903940012011-12-03T03:51:23.640-08:002011-12-03T03:51:23.640-08:00Amazing reply, jazakAllah khair!Amazing reply, jazakAllah khair!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com