tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post2778363038689364659..comments2024-01-28T22:16:42.451-08:00Comments on Dear Little Auntie: I want to be Special. I want to Belong.Little Auntiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16279010843700950235noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-80007503276287124942011-12-21T17:53:16.371-08:002011-12-21T17:53:16.371-08:00Aww, I am experiencing the same situation. My old ...Aww, I am experiencing the same situation. My old high school friends don't accept the new 'me' anymore... it's hurtful. But Allah has replaced them with new true friends I found in MSA through college :)) I so like them, MashaAllah! plus the hadith and hadith Qudsi also made me feel better :) thumbs up 100x! <br />Jazakillahu Khayr :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-37716426091114688812011-11-26T08:28:19.118-08:002011-11-26T08:28:19.118-08:00May Allah bless you sis... :)May Allah bless you sis... :)Princesshugablenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-7475957591448958122011-11-25T18:51:49.845-08:002011-11-25T18:51:49.845-08:00i apologize for my rude comments earlier...im sorr...i apologize for my rude comments earlier...im sorry. :/ ... :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-1530259474448992292011-11-24T10:05:48.444-08:002011-11-24T10:05:48.444-08:00yea, it does feel like a slumber party :) Little A...yea, it does feel like a slumber party :) Little Auntie, Aziza, Grey Abaya Girl, jazakAllahuakkriun for the advice! i really, really, really love you guys for the sake of Allah <3<br /><br />SubhanAllah, I've been trying to be more..alone with Allah..and i really love it. It's actually so much more comforting than to be amonst ppl who make me feel alone. Im never alone when I'm with Allah..Alhamdulilah :)<br /><br />you guys are always in my dua, inshaAllah.PrincessHugablenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-739677425399411442011-11-15T01:42:26.264-08:002011-11-15T01:42:26.264-08:00Aww, thanks Little Auntie!
Yeah, it does feel lik...Aww, thanks Little Auntie!<br /><br />Yeah, it does feel like a slumber party. A slumber party where everyone can take as much room and time to say something (and everyone can pay good attention to everything everyone says), so it's better than a real one in that way.Grey Abaya Girlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-6918269829581014882011-11-14T23:07:33.648-08:002011-11-14T23:07:33.648-08:00Grey Abaya Girl!
First of all, I'm very happy ...Grey Abaya Girl!<br />First of all, I'm very happy to 'meet' you! Second, do not apologize for long comments. I love long comments. Then I feel like we're having a huge slumber party and we're all talking with each other and it's not just me going blah blah blah ;)<br /><br />As for your comment, I couldn't have said it better, myself =)Little Auntiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16279010843700950235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-77691882722031747172011-11-13T23:58:10.521-08:002011-11-13T23:58:10.521-08:00And Princess Huggable, you said they are not inter...And Princess Huggable, you said they are not interested in listening about Islam. I gave general comments, of course, but only you know exactly what kind of people your friends are. If you know that there's hardly any chance to discuss the thing you love with them, then Little Auntie's advice about keeping it to nice greetings sounds better than "hitting yourself with stones". You don't want to get hurt!Grey Abaya Girlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-69241199540653506362011-11-13T23:52:15.930-08:002011-11-13T23:52:15.930-08:00Princess Huggable, I must say the same thing, I ne...Princess Huggable, I must say the same thing, I never thought there are so many people who felt the same way as me! In fact, your question describes my feelings exactly, after I started college without any of my religious friends who I'd had since school. I still keep in touch with them and we get together every now and then, but I have eight hours of college five times a week with not-so-religious Muslim friends. That made me sad, lonely and frustrated for a long time. Every day at breaktime I got up to pray zuhur and left them behind at the lunch table (they didn't pray). I got tired of all the time I spent sitting silently beside them because I was bored by/didn't approve of their conversation (e.g. crushes, one of them has a boyfriend), also I was frustrated because they talk to boys (it's a co-ed college) and I don't. At first I was drawn into their jokey-giggly talks with boys but then I evaluated myself and thought, "If I was not with them, would I be doing the same thing on my own?" No! So I started looking intently at my mobile phone/textbook/something in silence while they had those conversations, or even walking away to do whatever I was originally going to do when my friends stopped to chat with those boys. Of course this led to a gradual "drifting away" process, like you said you talk less with your friends now, but I didn't completely sever ties with them. Now I spend practically 90% of my time "alone" (counting when I'm sitting next to them and doing something else). One thing that really helped me was discussing this issue with my religious school friend who is in another college now. She said that she had decided to keep in touch with her not-so-religious friends with the intention of inviting them towards good, and at the same time depended on her interaction with religious girls and women to be led towards good herself. It's really tiring saying "no, I don't do this, I don't do that either, sorry, I'm not going there with you" over and over to not-so-religious friends, that's why it's easier to limit your interaction with them for your own sanity. That said, one shouldn't go overboard with the "intention of leading them towards good" either, because that happens very S-L-O-W-L-Y, the opportunities to say something religious are very rare with these people, and sometimes they show interest but agree with you but don't act on it, or only act on it for a little while. The point is just to show them a picture of what a practicing Muslimah looks like, BUT not get tricked into getting their acceptance by compromising on your principles, AND find severa sources, online/relatives/friends/mosque/Islamic videos/blogs or whatever works, to keep your own fuel tank full. It's a very delicate balancing act and I've slipped several times, honestly (like I mentioned in talking to boys). So staying at a comfortable, safe distance is easier. Drifting away is more permanent than cutting it off abruptly, actually. After awhile they just get used to talking to each other instead of to you.<br /><br />And you know, your responsibility ends at just telling them nicely what is right and what is wrong. Once. That's all. We just have to teach ourselves not to get involved beyond this point (unless they show interest in knowing more about the issue, and not just for the sake of argument, of course.)<br /><br />I often see LONG comment posts on this blog and what do you know! Now I'm guilty of one of them.Grey Abaya Girlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-56469115401652918822011-11-10T23:39:52.407-08:002011-11-10T23:39:52.407-08:00Fida- ma'shaAllah! I remember I also had a non...Fida- ma'shaAllah! I remember I also had a non-Muslim friend who would apologize whenever they cussed around me. <br /><br />Anonymous, I'm sorry to hear that when you reverted you got the whole 'now you're boring comments'. I know I've also had that problem even though I'm not a revert. But SubhanAllah, like you said, it's boring to just limit your mind to 'following celebrities's lifestyles'! <br /><br />revertMuslimah, la hawla wa la quwata illah biallah! I did NOT expect to read that she was also a Muslim. :(<br /><br />Hawwa, that's the thing! Half the time somebody sends in an e-mail, I'm like "wow"...I have the same problem or had the same problem, too ;)<br /><br />PrincessHugable, HUGS!! <br />Aziza, <3 <br />Just want to say that sometimes the toughest crowds are fellow Muslims. Unfortunately, they think "Hey,I'm Muslim, too, but you don't need to be that Muslim." It can be really discouraging when your muslim friends ask you why you wore hijaab......but that goes back to what we said earlier, WE are the strangers <3Little Auntiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16279010843700950235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-46421637189983250912011-11-10T23:32:44.228-08:002011-11-10T23:32:44.228-08:00Back with some more!
You might want to read this ...Back with some more!<br /><br />You might want to read this post of ours:<br />http://dearlittleauntie.blogspot.com/2010/08/dear-little-aunties-friends-i-have.html<br /><br />And, I know we all grow up with the notion of 'friends forever', but sometimes, we do move in different directions and no longer share the same values anymore. When you can hardly recognize why you guys were friends, I think then, it's time to just keep to 'salams' ...<br /><br />I also want to clarify what I meant in the above comment: <br />Wen it comes to who we befriend, it really depends on 'your personality' and your friend's personalities..<br /><br />1. ARE you influenced easily? Will your religion and your heart be influenced by them? OR will you be able to influence them?<br />2. Do they encourage you to do things you're trying to give up- say for example, listen to inappropriate music? Watch inappropriate videos?<br /><br />Remember, though - it doesn't mean that you necessarily 'forget your friends'- you can appreciate all the good times you had together and how they were there for you, how they supported you...but you also accept that you yourself have changed and that you have different directions to go. You just make dua for them, too, that they become better Muslimahs, inshaAllah.Little Auntiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16279010843700950235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-63098542539015535262011-11-10T23:17:29.866-08:002011-11-10T23:17:29.866-08:00Anonymous- your comment was deleted because it con...Anonymous- your comment was deleted because it contained nothing whatsoever beneficial in it. The Quran says:<br /><br />O you who have believed, let not a people ridicule [another] people; perhaps they may be better than them; nor let women ridicule [other] women; perhaps they may be better than them. And do not insult one another and do not call each other by [offensive] nicknames. Wretched is the name of disobedience after [one's] faith. And whoever does not repent - then it is those who are the wrongdoers. (49:11)<br /><br />As for the idea of 'just being friends with people' to avoid being loser-like- that's not really Islamic thinking. The prophet sallah Allahoo alyhee wa salam did deal with many different kinds of people but it was never for the sake of looking 'cool'.<br /><br />We also have to keep in mind that it was THE prophet who warned us:<br /><br />“A person is likely to follow the faith of his friend, so look whom you befriend.” (reported by Abu Dāwūd & Tirmidhi).<br /><br />Our friends have the biggest influence on us. And as a good friend of mine said, bad friends are a lot like gravity. They pull you down.<br /><br />I'm not saying you have to give up your friends...I don't want to give an Islamic ruling but I am saying that if you want to be a better Muslimah, it is important to have good, practicing friends, too.Little Auntiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16279010843700950235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-36849391466261483872011-11-10T18:25:43.135-08:002011-11-10T18:25:43.135-08:00Dear PrincessHugable, can I just say that I love y...Dear PrincessHugable, can I just say that I love you for the sake of Allah? *hugs* MashAllah I can totally relate to your situation and I want you to remember that you are never alone cuz you've got all your sisters who want the best for you, your dear little aunties, and of course your true best friend....ALLAH!!! :) <3<br />My dear, I have the same problem with my buddies....except mine are not Muslim. It a difficult situation no doubt and I know that I could do a lot better, but when the conversations start to get a bit "iffy" I usually hush up and make dua or dhikr and just talk to Allah. After a while, they started to be more cautious when speaking to me. And of course since your friends are Muslim, perhaps you can tell them how you feel? They would definitely understand and you would be helping not only yourself, but them in the process. Now that's some true sisterly love! :) I pray that Allah will make it easy for you and all of us to do the right thing. <br />I also pray that He will help you to change the world with the beautiful smile that He has blessed you with. :)Azizahttp://muslimyouthmusings.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-42098198468573641712011-11-10T15:26:25.924-08:002011-11-10T15:26:25.924-08:00Asalamualaikum Anonymous sister...
im sorry if you...Asalamualaikum Anonymous sister...<br />im sorry if you dont like my name ;)<br /><br />anyways, the reason i dont want to stay with them much is becuz they dont like it wen i talk abt islam...and i love to talk abt islam..i can only talk abt what i really love :)but your right..the prophet (SAW) would talk to all kinds of ppl...am i being narrow minded...shud i give them another chance?PrincessHugablenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-18077314773690697722011-11-10T15:10:55.311-08:002011-11-10T15:10:55.311-08:00woah. -_-
i think you should'nt be a loner a...woah. -_-<br /><br /> i think you should'nt be a loner and you shud hang out with your friends. That wud be mean and loser-like if you just left like that...the profet (saw) wud hang out a be nice to all kinds of ppl. im just being honest. <br /><br />and who deleted my comment?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-55332625432357983112011-11-09T09:02:44.700-08:002011-11-09T09:02:44.700-08:00Asalamualaikum Warahmatulahi Wabarakatuhu my lovin...Asalamualaikum Warahmatulahi Wabarakatuhu my loving sisters :)<br /><br />you guys are so sweet mashaAllah, i really love you all :)...its funny how that one rude comment disapeared ;)<br /><br />Potential Hijabi, jazakAllahukaiirunnn for the video :) i love it, Alhamdulilah<br /><br />RevertMuslimah, i know exactly what you mean. SubhanAllah...how ppl leave you becuz you are doing sumthing good. And you're thought of as 'cheesy' when you want to talk about Allah. Those arent real friends. <br /><br />Alhamdulilah, i didnt realize there are so many ppl with the same situation as me. My loving sisters are all right here...online :)BarakAllahufeekum!<br /><br />little Auntie, should i stay away from my not-so-practising friends? i'm with them everyday at school...when i talk to them i feel like im throwing stones at myself. And when i dont i feel lonely. So sumtimes at lunch, i walk to a near by musjid and read quran...but im not alowed to do it everyday...what should i do?PrincessHugablenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-58025652876625812442011-11-09T05:02:44.344-08:002011-11-09T05:02:44.344-08:00Awesome post sisters, like many I can also relate....Awesome post sisters, like many I can also relate.<br />It's true, when someone reverts, or starts pracitsing the Deen, they are usually shunned.<br /><br />I remember when my long time "bestfriend" sent me a message on facebook telling me "I don't want to be your friend anymore.blahblahblah. You're boring, and need to CHILL ON THE MUSLIM THING"<br />Funny thing is, she's Muslim.<br /><br />Alhamdulillah I've met many nice sisters via the internet, and even some nearby. Sometimes, even if you've been with those people for the longest of time, if they aren't getting you closer to ALLAH ( Helping you do good, and not bad ) then you don't need them. Harsh truth :)<br /><br />And always remember, when you feel alove you've ALWAYS got ALLAH. and inshaALLAH these aunties, myself and many sisters around the globe are willing to stick it out with you.<br /><br />Love you all fesabilillah :)RevertMuslimahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02172682853483527020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-2566507424899607722011-11-08T03:15:12.978-08:002011-11-08T03:15:12.978-08:00Salaam Alaikum! :D
The whole time o read this que...Salaam Alaikum! :D <br />The whole time o read this question I kept contemplating whether I was the one who sent it cos it's exactly what I'm going through. And as always masha Allah the replies are very wonderful! Jazakillah khairan :)Hawwahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06118924958916536414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-656058587518097072011-11-08T02:36:16.549-08:002011-11-08T02:36:16.549-08:00@Pricess hugable
Listen to this lecture, by Khali...@Pricess hugable<br /><br />Listen to this lecture, by Khalid Yasini .. on being strangers! Alhumdulillah, it's one I always love listening to, when I feel like a stranger even amongst a crowd who know me!<br /><br />http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nwvjm7T3MoA<br /><br />Download it from keepvid.com and keep it with you, so you can listen to it whenever you feel like, Insha'allah! :)PotentialHijabihttp://dunyatodeen.wordpress.com/2011/07/28/being-a-stranger/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-87048631320884217312011-11-07T21:28:03.307-08:002011-11-07T21:28:03.307-08:00Assalam alykum. Thank you for sending wonderful qu...Assalam alykum. Thank you for sending wonderful questions:) It really helps.<br /><br /> Some converted muslims also hear from non-muslim friends that "You became a boring person". <br /><br /> I was also indirectly told so. Once I felt a bit sad, but soon realized we should please Allah rather than people around us. <br /> (and Allah gave me better surroundings.)<br /><br /> As you know Allah doesn't care how popular/funny we are, but He cares how sincere we are in Islam.<br /><br /> I think boring people are those who limit their interests to Looking good,TV program, guys, celebrities etc.<br /> See these religious sisters here(or in other blogs) who are full of wit and creative ideas.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-32436672763214504312011-11-07T18:08:28.985-08:002011-11-07T18:08:28.985-08:00@ anonymous : T_T
seriously? if you don't have...@ anonymous : T_T<br />seriously? if you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say it at all! <br /><br />I'm sure that you can find a variety of ways to spend your time (other than posting not so nice comments of course) <br />how about painting or something<br />or you could read a book<br />lightbulb-read the quran<br /><br />anyways, princesshugable is a cute and happy name; if you can't appreciate that, then don't...but no need to go hating eitherAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-17776946306156729612011-11-07T10:05:04.639-08:002011-11-07T10:05:04.639-08:00Asalamualaikum little Auntie <3
jazakAllahukai...Asalamualaikum little Auntie <3<br /><br />jazakAllahukaiirrruun soo supperr much! :)<br />i couldnt help but smile the whole time i read this, it really did help me. And i feel really good, Alhamdulilah ^_^<br /><br /> SubhanAllah...all this time i didnt realize that being a real Muslimah was super special. the "Islam began as somthing strange, and it will return to being somthing strange, so give glad tidngs to the strangers" Hadith really touched me. This is the first time i saw this Hadith and it made me cry happy tears :') Alhamdulilah <br /><br />inshaAllah ill try my best to be with good company..just make dua for me please ^_^<br /><br />and let me give you a big HUG :D i love you little Auntie <3 :DPrincessHugablenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-38035911562043849062011-11-07T07:33:10.216-08:002011-11-07T07:33:10.216-08:00Thanks so much for this post! I can really relate....Thanks so much for this post! I can really relate. Even about those gazes, I have non-Muslim accqantices and if they say or do something bad and meet my gaze, they apologize and try to not do it for the rest of the day... I just wish lots of people notice their own bad and pray to Allah.<br /><br />Thanks again for this post! (:Fida Islaihhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02092246146139978450noreply@blogger.com