tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post4091455250370609008..comments2024-01-28T22:16:42.451-08:00Comments on Dear Little Auntie: Under Her Feet. (Mother Troubles)Little Auntiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16279010843700950235noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-69643721711407755362012-03-21T12:01:22.135-07:002012-03-21T12:01:22.135-07:00sister, lately a thought occured ..
Though Juraij ...sister, lately a thought occured ..<br />Though Juraij suffered, he was finally safe.Truth came out.<br />if we turn to Allah,keep asking forgiveness and protection sincerely,perhaps we too could be saved in ways which we don't even imagine,in sha allah.<br /><br />I dunno how right this is.But, alhamdhulillah this is helpful.Alhamdhulillah who poured d thought into me.<br /><br />Allah knows best.<br />Jazakillah khair little auntie =)<br />Barakallah feek =)sissinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-9033941708890384112012-03-20T06:48:10.244-07:002012-03-20T06:48:10.244-07:00Sissi, we really can't comment on that. You...Sissi, we really can't comment on that. You'll have to ask a scholar, inshaAllah =)Little Auntiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16279010843700950235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-86525789791973583822012-03-20T01:51:16.852-07:002012-03-20T01:51:16.852-07:00assalamu alaikum warahmathullahi wabarakathuhu.
si...assalamu alaikum warahmathullahi wabarakathuhu.<br />sisters, when it comes to curses, i'm reminded of Juraij hadith...Juraij chose prayer to his mom and the curse came true..What about us?<br />What if the curse was like ur prayers wont be accepted,u wont get salvation etc.,<br /><br />Got anything to say?<br /><br />jazakumullah khairsissinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-148917456968275842012-01-19T04:45:37.708-08:002012-01-19T04:45:37.708-08:00SubahanAllah! Its just the right advice for me too...SubahanAllah! Its just the right advice for me too;I am glad I found it!!Alhamdulillah<br /><br />JazakAllah Khair Little Aunties :DAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-10993029717330680162011-10-16T11:50:52.102-07:002011-10-16T11:50:52.102-07:00Asalamu alaikum
JAZAKUMULLLAH KULLI KHAIR.
Your ...Asalamu alaikum<br /><br />JAZAKUMULLLAH KULLI KHAIR.<br /><br />Your advice really affected me...Alhamdulilllah..<br />And tonight Im gonna sleep happily becoz my mummy(a v v difficult person) and granny(the taken-4-granted one) are pleased with me and my sweet behavior today,Alhamdulillah.Alhamdulilah<br /><br />All these days,I thought being extra kind and nice was a chore.but subhanallah..After reading this..I could be geniunely kind and could even find some silly things about them to laugh together with.I pray each day becomes as this.Ameen<br /><br />Im so forwarding this to my siblings..Pray for us...<br /><br />Jazakumullah kulli khair..Khadhijahttp://tightknot.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-8402150387846494592011-10-02T23:53:08.350-07:002011-10-02T23:53:08.350-07:00MashaAllah.. I hope this article helps me improve ...MashaAllah.. I hope this article helps me improve my relationship with my mom! I hope it does.. inshaAllah.Aspiring Muslimahnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-4204763887163909002011-06-28T05:59:39.586-07:002011-06-28T05:59:39.586-07:00JazakAllah ladies...Going through some mom issues ...JazakAllah ladies...Going through some mom issues my self even though i'm way past teenage...Came to the blog to find something to help me deal with it and found this to be Bang on target!!JazakAllah, my sincerest prayers for you all.....Nidanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-5089562727210671732011-04-05T15:22:37.879-07:002011-04-05T15:22:37.879-07:00MashaAllah what a beautiful post :)
I'm a conv...MashaAllah what a beautiful post :)<br />I'm a convert, alhamdulillah, and my relationship with my parents is rather strained. They don't really understand my way of life, and I can see that my choices hurt them. They think I'm going to make myself unhappy. The situation is really difficult sometimes. I can't imagine going to them and telling them I want to wear hijaab, I think my mother would cry :-/<br />I know that if I want to be a good Muslim, I will cause them pain and worry. I will do my best to be kind, respectful and helpful, because I know it's my duty. It's a dilemma though, because I can't overstep my boundaries (i.e leave Islam) just to please them and make them happy. But I will do what I can, inshaAllah.Safiyahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05518860151710257583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-77407407403961569402011-02-23T11:20:57.124-08:002011-02-23T11:20:57.124-08:00Salaam Alaikum Aunties,
MashaAllah what wonderful...Salaam Alaikum Aunties,<br /><br />MashaAllah what wonderful advice! You guys should really compile all your posts and put them in a book. I bet so many muslims would benefit from it!<br />Hugs to you ladies for all the effort you put into answering these questions and the fabulous job you guys do at answering them!Rene´s Bare Essentialshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16308212836561045324noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-89988725482754654842011-02-15T10:23:41.018-08:002011-02-15T10:23:41.018-08:00^Oh yes, there are mothers like that. I assumed si...^Oh yes, there are mothers like that. I assumed since this person sent this question in and said "Asian culture" though she was simply addressing that it was just a 'cultural/generation gap' difference thing and not that her mother was 'in need of medical help'/'sick'/'going to smother her' that kinda thing, you know what I mean? But yes, there are some mothers like that. It's just that I believe they are the minority :)Little Auntiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16279010843700950235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-90692456748637978092011-02-15T06:18:13.725-08:002011-02-15T06:18:13.725-08:00oops, I hit enter too early. some mothers don'...oops, I hit enter too early. some mothers don't love their children and it is not that child's fault.OzarksUSAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11343284174685698739noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-72484653522801299992011-02-15T06:14:34.638-08:002011-02-15T06:14:34.638-08:00I agree that it is important to look at every moth...I agree that it is important to look at every mother's past, but what about the mothers that have their baby, smother it, and put the baby's body in a dumpster? Regardless of why, some mothers don't love their children.OzarksUSAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11343284174685698739noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-57922885839286406572011-02-15T03:05:11.579-08:002011-02-15T03:05:11.579-08:00X@hu! Your comment had me in tears. I believe Alla...X@hu! Your comment had me in tears. I believe Allah sent you to write that comment for ME to read. What you said about dessert and cuddling over you when you're sick...my mom is the kind of mom who wakes up in the middle of the night to make sure I've got my blanket on...:( SubhanAllah. <br />OH and my mother is like yours-- generous to a 'fault'. Everyone loves her and this is something I should/could really learn from her. <br /><br />May Allah grant your mother shifaa!! Ameen!! May this be a means of raising her ranks, inshaAllah.<br /><br />Loved your last line: When you focus on the big picture, things become a whole lot easier to deal with! :D<br /><br />Lady of the Ozarks, thanks for visiting us here. I do agree thatthere are some mothers who need some help- like you said, "maybe they don't know HOW to love". Sometimes we have to look at the experiences our mother went through to become the person she is-- what happened to her?Little Auntiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16279010843700950235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-11332091850135597262011-02-13T10:43:58.018-08:002011-02-13T10:43:58.018-08:00Some mothers really don't love their children....Some mothers really don't love their children. Other mothers are very abusive because they don't know "how" to love.OzarksUSAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11343284174685698739noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-42387477410367650542011-02-13T06:13:52.031-08:002011-02-13T06:13:52.031-08:00Subhan Allah! This is one AMAZING article dear sis...Subhan Allah! This is one AMAZING article dear sister! I'm still trying to absorb it! And ditto for what these girls said, why couldn't I have seen this blog when I was a teenager?<br /><br />All my life, I've had the most volatile of relationships with my mother. My childhood was an agony of frustration and tears and I used to think that it was the worst thing ever to be afflicted with such a mother!<br /><br />When I got older there came a few years (my late teens actually), when I relished hitting it back at her for all those times when I could never talk back to her. Everything she said ticked me off and now that I look back, I know I was being irrational, but at the time, my snappy harsh retorts were payback for all the times she humiliated me in public, accused me of things I didn't do, never allowed me to have friends, never let me choose anything for myself and basically just didn't let me BREATHE!<br /><br />My mother is elderly now and constantly sick, but that hasn't changed her rapier sharp tongue and in fact, she's become even more irritable and cranky and needy. But what has changed is how I look at her now. It's true that with the years, you become a little more mature, a little more wise and a little more tolerant. <br /><br />When you look at something negatively, then you will only see the bad and for the life of you, cannot even imagine any good in it.<br /><br />Sure, my mother is cantankerous, but at the same time, she has loved me much much more than she has hurt me.<br /><br />I know it's very very hard to bring up the good memories of your mother when she's going at you with both barrels. It took my mother being admitted into ICU and the very real fear that she might die for me to put things in perspective. I spent hours waiting outside, making a list of everything she has done for me and the reasons why I love her.<br /><br />She's the one who cuddles me and fusses over me when I get sick. She's the one who gets me whatever I need without me having to say it. She's the one who always keeps her piece of dessert aside to give to me because she knows I have a sweet tooth. She's the only one whose hug has the power to soothe me, even when she herself is the person I'm furious with.<br /><br />Allah subhaanahu wa ta'aala in His Wisdom has chosen to give me her as a mother. It took me years, but I have realized that when I'm being dissatisfied with the mother I got, I'm actually expressing dissatisfaction with Allah subhaanahu wa ta'aala's decision. How could I even think of expressing displeasure at Allah subhaanahu wa ta'aala? He knows what I know not and as the sister said, one reason could be because I am to learn something from my mother and her from me.<br /><br />I never thought about it that way before. That I could learn something from her. But now that I think about it, my mother is generous to a fault. She's always giving people things or feeding people or doing things for people or some such thing. Masha Allah, that is a wonderful quality she has and it is something I can emulate from her. <br /><br />Jazakallah Khair for the advice in this article. Also for the sisters who commented. It's a relief to know that I'm not the only one who has to deal with a difficult parent and spends half her life feeling like a rotten daughter :P<br /><br />One thing I have learned is that the more you strive to get closer to Allah Subhaanahu wa ta'aala, the less these things worry, irritate or just plain matter to you. When you become more accepting of His Divine wisdom, it gives you the strength to be more patient.<br /><br />This life is a journey and our resting place is Jannah and in a way, our mothers are a test for us. Now whenever my mother snaps at me and my temper flares, I think about where I want to go and where I'm going to end up if I were to fail in this. When you focus on the big picture, things become a whole lot easier to deal with! :DZahfa Aisha Hussainhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03281139462985997212noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-29095528646956757562011-02-11T07:07:34.928-08:002011-02-11T07:07:34.928-08:00Salma, you guys have the hardest job out there. Yo...Salma, you guys have the hardest job out there. You have our complete respect and admiration! and thank you so much for the award. Truly honored <3 <br /><br />Sabirah- this blog is the result of all that we ended up learning 'during/and after our teenage' years, so don't think for a sec, that we knew this stuff, ourselves, LOL. So true about having to 'accept her'-- I guess we just have to all learn to agree to disagree :)<br /><br />Theonewhoneedsreminders-thank you for sharing that with us. I really like your comment a LOT!! I hope your mother gets better soon, inshaAllah. <3 and hey, we're from the middle east, so we know how asian relationships are too..<br /><br />:)Little Auntiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16279010843700950235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-69241988580229316752011-02-11T02:07:09.056-08:002011-02-11T02:07:09.056-08:00Wow subhanallah that's one awesome advice! I w...Wow subhanallah that's one awesome advice! I wish somebody could tell me that too when I was in school and was a total rebellious teenager. My sis got married when I was 13, my brother went abroad to stay with my dad. So during my typical teenage years it was just my mom and I. It didn't go pretty at all.! I would do everything that guaranteed to hurt her!<br /><br />Now I realize how she left her blooming career to raise especially me cause my other 2 siblings were taken care of by my grandma. She left her life so that she could raise me properly<br /><br />But alhamdulillah we've even had times that we both enjoyed in. Still somewhere down my heart I've always hated her for one of her mistakes. Even when I thought she cared for me I'd remind of how i suffered for her mistake. But alhamdulillah it all comes back to deen again, once u Improve ur relation with Islam u even realize how wrong u have been with looking at things. What I used to think was my mom's mistake was nothing she had done knowingly.<br /><br />Now I'm 20 and away from her I miss all the care and concern she had for me. She never allowed me slumber parties at my other friend's place but now when I'm living alone I realize what sort of danger I'd have posed to myself.<br /><br />She's not been well lately and it was in those days I realized the love I have for her. We still have arguments when I visit her in my home country but that's only cause she gets insecure when I spend more time with my sis. Now that I'm growing up I've realized as much as I didn't Want to be like my mom when I'd grow up I still have her characteristics and that's cool as long as I can use them positively.<br /><br />Remember sister, even ur own family or ur mother can be ur test for this world. Don't blow ur chance of attaining jannah. I know how Asian relationships with moms work :PShireen Baighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03048667572261091848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-91501502628540387952011-02-10T11:53:12.335-08:002011-02-10T11:53:12.335-08:00As always...Masha'Allah...why couldn't I f...As always...Masha'Allah...why couldn't I find this blog when I was a teen!<br /><br />I used to think (and still might) that I had the worst relationship with my mother. I thought my mother's actions and ways of thinking were all wrong and I thought the way she treated me meant she didn't love me the "right" way. I have grown up...and I know my parents have many flaws (after all they are human)...the one thing I realized is that even if they made mistakes and didn't know how to bridge the gap between my culture and theirs...they did everything thinking it was the best for me. It may not have been, but through all the difficult things they faced...I realized...they did everything for me and my brothers. I wish I could go back and take the awful things I used to think about her and say to her back. Now that I'm married and far away...I see more than ever how much she cares and loves me. We still disagree on almost everything and there are many things she does I'm not happy about...but at the end of the day...I had to learn to accept her and try to find the best way to improve our relationship. Little by little she has begun to change because of this.Sabirahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15675016128841833504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-89980983691892162802011-02-10T10:17:00.836-08:002011-02-10T10:17:00.836-08:00Well, wow, am I shocked. I have been having a hard...Well, wow, am I shocked. I have been having a hard time as a mom lately. I am glad to see this post. Thanks.<br />ALSO, please come over to my blog for an award.*https://www.blogger.com/profile/10569248404287306578noreply@blogger.com