tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post4341602293874646206..comments2024-01-28T22:16:42.451-08:00Comments on Dear Little Auntie: the P word (polygamy)Little Auntiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16279010843700950235noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-56443701270804696822014-03-18T04:44:25.985-07:002014-03-18T04:44:25.985-07:00i am muslimah n i accept islamic laws with my whol...i am muslimah n i accept islamic laws with my whole heart n life. about polygamy,as a muslimah we must accept it as we accept the others. for me it's more about like or dont like. no woman LIKE her husband to marry other girl(s), but do we have right to ban polygami? ofcourse NO.<br />am also a wife,my husband is arab - canadian n am half chinese - indonesian. different culture n background but islam gather us to be one. <br />this topic(polygami) was my discussion with him in our first day.<br />i told him in the name of Allah, i dont like polygami, dont like it doesnt mean i hate it n refuse it. it's man's right to marry more than one wife n woman's obligation to be patience for that. still, i dont like it no matter what u wanna say. n IF later u marry a second wife, i have no choice but be patient n do it for the sake of Allah , for His face. if u ask why i dont ask for divorce the question is simply i dont want to be a person who cant smell the scent of jannah because i ask for divorce with that reason, n i wish to enter jannah for the door for as sabirin.<br /><br />i dont mean anything just to tell u that polygami is not that bad,it becomes bad when someone makes it bad.<br />may Allah guide us n keep us istiqama in this right path<br /><br />lil auntie can u please send me contact number or email for that chinese sister from canada?<br />jazakillah khairan<br /><br />Mrs.Kararhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04578726819052452540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-13881920775403862242011-12-15T01:24:12.270-08:002011-12-15T01:24:12.270-08:00just wanted to say that a wife can stipulate in th...just wanted to say that a wife can stipulate in the marriage contract that her husbnad cann't take a 2nd wife i have read that on IslamQA.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-45635287750817968562011-09-22T10:37:18.445-07:002011-09-22T10:37:18.445-07:00Wa'alykum as salam,
Rooshna, usually we have a...Wa'alykum as salam,<br />Rooshna, usually we have a "Contact Page" up. However, we have removed the Contact page because we are very much behind questions- we still have questions from July. So I'm going to have to ask you to wait a bit, please :)<br /><br />Jazakillah for understanding :)Little Auntiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16279010843700950235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-45054113168064397592011-09-21T23:46:31.070-07:002011-09-21T23:46:31.070-07:00Assalam alaicum. I love reading ur blogs and feel ...Assalam alaicum. I love reading ur blogs and feel ur advices are a huge help to each and everyone of us. i too have a question to ask but am unable to find the way to do so. can i reach u thru this 'post a comment' field? pls help. jazak AllahRooshna Memonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-30768082379659641362011-08-13T14:34:40.531-07:002011-08-13T14:34:40.531-07:00Assalamoalaikom all :) Thanks for this post, it is...Assalamoalaikom all :) Thanks for this post, it is really good :) I thought that I learned the man can only take another wife if his first wife permits it? Is this true? I just want to make sure- b/c to me that throws any question of injustice and inequality out of the windowSamnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-68318856284885233782011-04-02T15:19:45.972-07:002011-04-02T15:19:45.972-07:00Asalaamu aleikum-
Yes, polygamy is an undeniable ...Asalaamu aleikum-<br /><br />Yes, polygamy is an undeniable part of Islam- but it is permissible only with some stipulations, and NOT obligatory. I don't need to practice polygamy to be a muslim, and there is no sin in not accepting it for yourself. It's a bit like niqab wearing in this respect. I really object, though, when muslimas are made to feel that if they don't want to be in a polygamous marriage that they are denying their religion or somehow sinning. I, for example, while accepting that it is part of Islam and ok for some people, it's not for me. And Allah knows best.Halimahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15548934024115676017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-2840954944877208322011-03-31T18:09:15.341-07:002011-03-31T18:09:15.341-07:00Well, sister Safiyah, there is a difference of a o...Well, sister Safiyah, there is a difference of a opinion on that issue; whether a woman has the right to stipulate something against what Allah has ordained. But yeah, some scholars say it's okay :)Little Auntiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16279010843700950235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-28425042559898326802011-03-31T13:21:59.352-07:002011-03-31T13:21:59.352-07:00Assalaamu aleykum,
nice article, mashaAllah :)
I...Assalaamu aleykum,<br /><br />nice article, mashaAllah :)<br /><br />I have one question though. Why you don't mention that you can also put it as a condition in your marriage contract, that you want the right to divorce when your husband takes a second wife? <br /><br />Love,<br /><br />SafiyahSafiyahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05518860151710257583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-61783383075907975352011-03-31T07:47:39.415-07:002011-03-31T07:47:39.415-07:00aww, thanks, Ria, but that was mostly answered by ...aww, thanks, Ria, but that was mostly answered by Miss Aunty (which is my twin). <br /><br />Looking forward to reading your sequel, inshaAllah.Little Auntiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16279010843700950235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-26950171622576943142011-03-31T06:45:14.128-07:002011-03-31T06:45:14.128-07:00I am also writing a sequel of polygyny LOL
I love ...I am also writing a sequel of polygyny LOL<br />I love your insights, Little Auntie.<br /><br />HUGS!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com