tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post6204697118048392571..comments2024-01-28T22:16:42.451-08:00Comments on Dear Little Auntie: Wanting a ChildLittle Auntiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16279010843700950235noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-22025583828417024572012-01-04T11:04:09.951-08:002012-01-04T11:04:09.951-08:00Assalamualikum wa rahmat Allaahi wa barakatuh
I d...Assalamualikum wa rahmat Allaahi wa barakatuh <br />I dun know what exactly I liked on this blog that I without viewing all ove, JOINED the blog, (I have exam tomorrow and I have no time to reading any other things that's why ... )Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-83149004214938506352011-09-22T03:10:49.393-07:002011-09-22T03:10:49.393-07:00Do not think that Allah have punished you. You hav...Do not think that Allah have punished you. You have to make a choice of your own which ever makes you happy. You can still enroll in some Islamic schools near you at the same time stay with your husband. With regards to you fertility concerns, I have found this site that maybe helpful. http://www.natural-fertility-prescription.comnatural fertilityhttp://www.natural-fertility-prescription.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-64942109458450275022011-08-14T01:47:03.464-07:002011-08-14T01:47:03.464-07:00Mashallah you have a strong heart sister, what mor...Mashallah you have a strong heart sister, what more can I say.You think of allowing your husband for a second wife. You dont have to. As little auntie quoted To Allah belongs the dominion of the heavens and the earth; He creates what he wills. He gives to whom He wills female [children], and He gives to whom He wills males. (49) Or He makes them [both] males and females, and He renders whom He wills barren. Indeed, He is Knowing and Competent. (50) (Surat Al Shura)<br />Inshallah Inshallah Allah will bless you witha helthy child very soon :0- All my prayers are with you. May God bless you and your husband and give you the strenght to bear this short time patiently Inshallah.Muslimahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16681149958916821009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-74253274055032611342011-08-10T00:31:49.683-07:002011-08-10T00:31:49.683-07:00^ I'm so sorry to read that.
I'm sure yo...^ I'm so sorry to read that. <br /><br />I'm sure you've tried fertility charting, right? But, if you haven't, show him that you're trying your best by recording your temperature and other fertility signs:<br /><br />http://www.justmommies.com/articles/fertility-charting.shtml<br /><br />http://www.justmommies.com/articles/ovulation-prediction-kit.shtml<br /><br />Other things to do is to eat right:<br />http://www.babycenter.com/0_trying-to-conceive-five-changes-to-make-to-your-diet-now_3558.bc<br /><br />Go through these tips with him: http://www.justmommies.com/articles/how-to-get-pregnant.shtml<br /><br />and just tell him that you're trying your best but it's not in your hands....SubhanAllah.Little Auntiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16279010843700950235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-74340352741207488372011-08-03T09:07:47.450-07:002011-08-03T09:07:47.450-07:00awww jazakaumAllah for your comments so sweet of y...awww jazakaumAllah for your comments so sweet of you all may our Lord love you all and reward you for your efforts.:) <br /><br />I know everything in this world is just a trst for us but the real and ever lasting thing is the pleasure of Allah (swt).<br /><br />but my husband is really getting upset about it when i ask him to have patience he just accuses me of not sincerly trying to have a baby. :(Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-20189334391575768832011-07-28T23:01:53.653-07:002011-07-28T23:01:53.653-07:00^ Ma'shaAllah, what a nice saying, Maria: ther...^ Ma'shaAllah, what a nice saying, Maria: there is wait but not hopelessness :)<br /><br />Xahu, I e-mailed the sister your comment. Jazakillah khair. What a special woman you mother is, ma'shaAllah. May Allah make the man who raised you, her husband's grave a garden of paradise and elevate his status. May He grant them jannatul firdaous." <br /><br />jazakillah for taking the time to write such a wonderful comment :)Little Auntiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16279010843700950235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-12414125627841890772011-07-28T11:02:53.566-07:002011-07-28T11:02:53.566-07:00I'm not married, so I really can't empathi...I'm not married, so I really can't empathize with your feelings, but I wanted to tell you something dear sister, and I hope you can take some comfort in it.<br /><br />I was brought up by an amazing woman who never begrudged Allah's decision to make her barren. Yes, it made her sad at times, but she trusted in His judgement, stayed constant in her prayers and He rewarded her by still making her a mother despite being unable to conceive. <br /><br />Allah's plans for us are mysterious and profound, but whatever He plans, it's always what's best for us. I'm an orphan, but Allah subhanahu wa ta'aala blessed me with parents who couldn't have doted on me more if I had been their own flesh and blood.<br /><br />My mother raised me and another child, a son, from birth and she always says that we're the greatest blessing Allah ever gave her. Hehehe, she calls us her special ticket to Jannah insha Allah! <br /><br />I learned from my mother that being unable to conceive is not Allah's punishment. It's not His way of depriving you, it's His way of ensuring that you're free to do something else more favorable to Him. Mum says it taught her patience, gave her strength, and masha Allah improved her relationship with Allah.<br /><br />Also, it's not something that should hang over your head like a cloud and it's not something that if Allah wills, will prevent you from experiencing the joy of motherhood.<br /><br />One of my aunts is married into a family who has trouble with fertility. One couple had to wait thirteen years before Allah blessed them with a child and there is another couple, married for twenty years, but Allah still hasn't answered their prayers. <br /><br />What I'm saying is, though I've never experienced it myself, I've seen first hand how it is when Allah delays or deprives the blessing of children. But maybe it's because I've never seen my mother cry about it or maybe it's her cheerful attitude, but I've never thought it's something to be depressed about.<br /><br />I've always thought that if Allah subhanahu wa ta'aala has destined for me to be childless, I would follow in my mother's footsteps. The Prophet (sallalaahu alayhi wasallam) himself has said that the one who fosters an orphan will be close to him in Jannah just like the closeness between two fingers. It's a happy reward to strive for, isn't it?<br /><br />You should get started with your fertility treatments. I would advise you not to delay them because IVF is not 100% guaranteed. It may take once or it may take several tries for it to succeed. One of my cousin's relatives recently got pregnant by IVF after trying unsuccessfully for five years.<br /><br />Another thing you could do is maybe look into the orphan option? You could see if you and your husband would be comfortable with it. It largely depends on the husband too I guess. My mother certainly couldn't have done it if my father hadn't stood by her. He never took another wife and alhamdulillahi they were happy together for more than forty years before he passed away. (I came into their lives after they've been together for more than twenty years)<br /><br />Dearest sis, try not to be depressed ok? Letting the misfortunes of the world overcome you is one way of being consumed with this world and forgetting that this is only a temporary abode. Just remember that any grief, any hardship you sustain here will be rewarded. Keep that happy thought in mind when sadness comes.<br /><br />Who knows, maybe Allah is saving you from having a really horrible child or something. Or maybe He's waiting for just the right time to gift you with an amazing child! Allah loves you, and in the end, He'll always do what will make you the happiest. Have faith in that :)<br /><br />I truly pray that Allah subahanu wa ta'aala answer your du'aa soon and gift you with children who will be a blessing for you in this life and in the hereafter. Ameen.Zahfa Aisha Hussainhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03281139462985997212noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8458157138768641619.post-14349550005377257242011-07-28T00:07:20.864-07:002011-07-28T00:07:20.864-07:00<3 this...2 amazing people in one blog post :) ...<3 this...2 amazing people in one blog post :) but if you are reading this (the person who wrote the letter) you are one amazing person! I can tell from reading a little letter from you. Your soul is alive & amazing. Don't be low. My aunt went 10 years without a child. She had 4 miscarriages and 3 stillbirths along the way. ALLAHAMDULLIAH she now has a beautiful 1 year old daughter. There is an Urdu saying, "Dayer hai lakin andher Nahee" meaning "there is wait, but not hopelessness" (sorry my urdu isn't perfect so not the most perfect translation) but it's true...ALLAHTALLAH is waiting, and He knows best. :) INSHALLAH though, we all pray that ALLAHTALLAH doesn't wait too long. I agree with the Little Auntie though...get yourself busy, plan an Umrah trip, start up a Friday Islamic group if you don't already have one, etc. Wishing the best for you sister :)<br /><br />-Sis MariaMariahttp://lavendarclouds.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.com