>> Saturday, June 22, 2013
Sisters I want advice for the things I should look for in a man, and how I should behave. I’m very confused and I feel stuck. My esteem is so down right now. There was a Muslim brother, who I thought was the most decent guy who I ever had interest in so far. I told him to get our parents involved...and then, it became apparent that he wasn't serious or interested in marriage. I'm just so down now. What should I be looking for and how should I act?
Now, let's get to your questions!
“If there comes to you one whose religious commitment and attitude pleases you, then marry [your female relative who is under your care] to him, for if you do not do that, there will be tribulation on earth and much corruption.” (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi and classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Sunan al-Tirmidhi, 1084)
Having similar interests and hobbies isn’t necessary, agreed [says] Terri Orbuch, Ph.D, a psychologist who specializes in couples and author of 5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great. But being similar in underlying values and beliefs is key to the happiness and stability of your marriage, according to her research study tracking the same couples for almost 24 years.
Well, sister, I hope this was a little helpful for you :) Sisters, share your advice and 'dream lists', too =) I'm sure I forgot some key points :D