>> Sunday, October 28, 2012
I met this brother through a matirmonial website and we really clicked. I prayed istikhara so many times and really prayed for the best. We agreed right from the beginning that we both want MARRIAGE and no dating. We share the same Islamic values and are really similar in so many things. Well, after I was sure that this was the person for me and after he had already told his dad about me, I told my parents about him and they actually seemed to welcome the prospect. They are willing to meet the brother. The only problem is...his mother! She does not want him to get married because he has no degree, no career and no house. Alhumdulliah he has a good job (not his career) but he is making good money, he is paying for his school, he only has a month or two left before he has completed his degree. And we were only planning to do an engagement first because I still haven't finished my degree, either. It's just really frustrating me. He is responsible and only Allah determines how much a person makes and what career. He told me that his parents are materialistic and cultural. And he is different from his parents and tries to follow the sunnh and want to marry young and I as well want to get married to him. Yes we did not or I didn't have my parents involved right away and yes have family support is crucial..I know I was wrong in that, but now we're trying to fix it. His dad agrees and my parents. Why is his mother being difficult , making something halaal haram?! It's just the typical brown family unreasonable requirements only to impress other people :(, we are both devastated and he said he would try to talk to his parents again. My parents are expecting a phone call from his side, I dnt know what to tell my parents, and I don't want to lose him :(..I have been making so much dua for this situation to get better..
So what can we say?