Is Everything Haram?!

>> Friday, July 2, 2010




Is everything haraam?? Is there anything that we can do?

Anonymous

Dear A non mouse!

My amigo, I so know what you mean. There are some grown-ups out there (okay, fine, people my age, even) who can really make you feel like everything is the ‘h’ word…H.A.R.A.A.M.

But the truth couldn’t be any further! Well actually, it could, if we change the ‘h’ word into the other ‘h’ word- H.A. L.A. A. L. One of the fundamental rules of fiqh, actually, is that….

*Get READY FOR ThiS*

‘Everything’ (outside of worship) is halal except when there’s proof that it’s haram (e.g. textual proof in the Qur’an, sunnah, or what can be derived by analogy as proof).

Does that mean you can go and do anything you want to do? Err. Nope. This rule isn’t a license to do whatever you want- it just lets you realize that Allah intends for you ease. Most things are halal. The exceptions are the haram things, not the other way around.

Let’s do a little fun exercise. Let’s list something that is haraam and some things in the same category that aren’t haraam. Does that sound fair to you?

Category: Drinks
Haram:

Alcohol (wine, beer, etc.)


Halal:


  • Water
  • Milk
  • Lemonade
  • Juices (Apple juice, Orange juice, Cranberry juice, Mango juice, Carrots and Orange juice- just checkin’ if you’re still reading this and btw, this really is a juice!)
  • Milkshakes (strawberry milkshake, chocolate milkshake, etc.)
  • Tea
  • Coffee (Cappuccino, espresso, mocha, etc.)
  • Sparkling water
  • Mountain Dew,
  • 7 Up,
  • Coke,
  • The list goes on!

You see how long the halaal list is compared to the haraam list?

It’s like when Allah Subhanoo Wa’ Tala told Adam and Hawa that they could eat from wherever they wanted, except from that one tree…We have pretty much the same thing. We can do most/many things, except some small things…

And even then, sometimes we can do those things, themselves, just ‘in a specific context’. Huh, you say? Haha, I say! Yes, some things that are ‘haram’ are actually not ‘haram’ in themselves…for example, ‘wearing make-up’ is not haram if it’s done in an area where only girls/mahrams are (like home, etc.), sex’ is not haraaameitherbutpleasecontinuereadinganddon’tstoprightthereoryou’re going to get me in big trouble with the big aunties for writing this, LOL.

But really, it isn’t haraam, so long as it’s within ‘the marriage context’.

In fact, Islamically, we believe that within that context, it can actually yield you a reward or ajr!

The fact that you get a reward for it obviously demonstrates then, it’s not ‘sex’ itself which is haram. It’s sex outside of marriage that is haram, whether we’re talking about pre-marital sex or adultery.

The truth is, when we look at this example that sex is haram when it’s outside of marriage but rewarded when it’s inside the marriage, we realize something clearly. Allah has forbidden for us or made haram for us that which is (I’m using this word on purpose, haha) harmful for us. By forbidding it outside of marriage, He has protected us from catching diseases, having illegitimate children with no right to inheritance, no clue who their father is, broken families, etc.

We can understand this even more when we consider this ayah:

"O you who believe! Give your response to God and His Messenger, when He calls you to that which will give you life." [A-Anfal 24] 
The things that He has told us to do and the things He has told us not to do are for our own benefit. They are what ‘give us life’.

Now, I know that right now you’re a teen and that you were asking about being able to ‘do’ things….
The truth is, there are plenty of things that you can do!

We’ve got to be creative and think of alternatives.
Let’s say the people around us ‘go out to clubs and drink a few drinks’. We obviously don’t do that! But we can meet up with friends in coffee cafes. What’s the harm in that?

What about going on picnics with friends?

Going to the beach might be a bit hard- what with all the nakey people- but how about going to an all girl’s gym (if you’re a girl, obviously :P). Playing basketball with your friends/soccer?

If a friend of yours has an in-door pool (okay, we can dream :D), what’s the problem with swimming?

What about reading? Not all books revolve around ‘bad or forbidden things’!

What about inviting some friends over and cooking together? It can be a lot of fun- choose a recipe, go out and buy the groceries together, come home and cook! (Gee, first I talk about drinks and now I talk about food. I sound obsessed with ‘eating’, n this post. It might just be cause I am, lol).

We don’t get tattoos but we have henna. We don’t listen to music but we listen to ‘islamic nasheeds’. Again, alternatives, alternatives, alternatives.

The fact is, don’t limit yourself to the things your ‘friends’ do. Think outside of the box. And if your "friends" are going out to do some haram things, have a back up plan ready. Get to know some Muslim girls from the Masjid. You don’t need to hang out with only people from your school.

I will say though that sometimes, it is going to be hard. And this world is going to seem like a….

Prison.


That’s cause that’s what it is for believers.

Prophet Muhammad (Sallah Allahoo alyhee wa salam) said, ‘The world is a prison for the believer and a paradise for the disbeliever.” [Sahih Muslim Kitaab Az-Zuhd]
Our paradise awaits for us…

Stay strong! You can do it!

I believe in you,

15 wonderful sprinkely thoughts:

oldie goldie July 2, 2010 at 6:48 PM  

mashaAllah great post sis! you put it the perfect way! lol@ anon mouse :DDD

Your Little Auntie July 3, 2010 at 12:26 AM  

Hehe, jazaki Allah oldie goldie. You're such a sweetie commenting on everything!

Anonymous,  July 4, 2010 at 6:45 PM  

i love your advices mashaAllah
pepita

Rukhpar Mor July 5, 2010 at 9:14 PM  

I love your blog=) Keep it up..I think you have great advice.
What would you say to someone that says that the rules of Islam were for 1400 years ago because now, due to technological advances, we CAN know who the father is as well use birth control so what's the harm in pre-marital sex( wow, I never type that word)? Maybe you could do your next post on that??

I really do enjoy reading your advice (four of them so far=))

Take care. Wassalam.

Little Auntie July 6, 2010 at 4:57 AM  

First of all, Jazakum Allah koli khair pepita and Rukhpar Mor for dropping by and visiting me (do have a cup of orange juice/chocolate milkshake/hehe) :D

InshaAllah, Rukhpar I will be tackling your question in my next post ;) (I had no idea that people used those as excuses/ justification for having pre-marital sex, lol. OH and I found it hard to write that word, too!! I acted all causal about it, but I was really like ‘did I just say that’? LOL)

Random19 July 21, 2010 at 10:44 PM  

3 Cheer to you Mate!! Wohoo!! Are you AWESOME or are you just plain SIMPLE AWESOME??!!! I always hated blogs cuz well it was just reading a few bunch of people making their private life public or just as a mode of rant! But DUDE (i know your not a dude, i just have a bad habit of calling everyone DUDE) your blog is sooo AWESOME! no, like serious!! Mashallah!! I was reading the list of Juices and when i say orange again i was thinking (hey, she used that before) haha

mmmwah xx , I might just post in a question too ;) oh btw i'm gonna be 20, so i know what an ''HORROR'' it's gonna be :(

I believe in YOUR blog!! (haha, had to steal it)

Little Auntie July 25, 2010 at 8:35 AM  

Random!! You remind me of myself- and that's (unfortunately) meant to be a compliment, LOL! I say 'dude' too (well with my family, lol) and I love that you ended it with 'i believe in your blog'. That is something I probably would have done :)

Jazaki Allah for visiting me here and sure- pop in a question or share your own advice :)

LOOL at u're going to be 20. Thanks for making me feel old, again :P

Random19 July 25, 2010 at 1:28 PM  

The name is Shireen, shireen baig :P (james bond style!)

I am soo much in love, ah i myself wish to take your advice on a gazillon questions and doubts. Bas, i will one fine day :P It'd be really cool to get to know you :)

Random19 July 25, 2010 at 1:29 PM  

Wrong attempt at the style :P Baig, Shireen Baig* hehe xx salamz!

Little Auntie July 26, 2010 at 5:44 AM  

Shireen, I'd love to get to know you better :) My gmail is dearlitteauntie@gmail.com

we can always chat :)

Iqra,  July 27, 2010 at 5:52 AM  

Nice post. I like your style! I love your straightforward manner. I found your blog after reading the article on igotitcovered.org

Am.Na November 15, 2010 at 12:35 AM  

i love your problem solving approach! ive got a set of teenage cousins who like to post difficult questions like the one above to me every now and then. i used to get angry at them for asking ridiculous questions, but after reading this post i've come to realize how we can jump in their shoes and put a different angle to everything :D jazakAllah loads!

Anonymous,  November 15, 2010 at 7:52 AM  

Thanks for the post ... actually we humans are living a life in uncertainty upto the extent that we don't know of the very next second of our life : ) ... so to believers who yearns to please their God lead a examined life so they not do anything haraam in their lives which may displease their ultimate love i.e. God while for disbelievers,as its the only opportunity,so they yearns to maximize as they don't believe in hereafter btw i did like that in the post,its very well conveyed that all is Halaal except what termed haraam but it need improvement a bit too as it seems to exhaust itself in comparison exclusively with what is haraam vs its Halaal alternatives and which may touch young age boys/girls life one way or other ...

Little Auntie February 13, 2012 at 7:04 AM  

Hey Savannah,
Currently, we've already gotten the maximum number of questions for this month (which is why we removed the contact page). However, if you need some real quick advice, you can try shooting us an email at dearlitteauntie@gmail.com :)

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