Love him? More like die for him...

I really love your blog and I really need your help. I’m really having low iman,I do not even know hadiths to believe these days,some hadiths really bother(can u explain a hadith about the prophet saying that a good muslim should love him(Prophet Muhammad) more than oneself).I’m having very,very low iman.

Jazak Allah girls and may Allah bless you for all that you do,

Need Help

Dear Need Help,

Asalamu aliakuam wa rahmatullah wa barkatoo, dearest Sis!

I'm sorry to hear about your low imaan, but I'm soOoOo glad that you sent this question in because you're giving us a chance to talk about the most beautiful person! Allahuma sali wa salim ala sayidduna Mohammed. Before we start though, I want to make it clear that this topic that will be very hard to give its rightful due, but we'll try to lightly touch upon

a. why we should we love the prophet more than ourselves and
b. why we should follow ahadith,

So yes, get yourself a nice cup of tea (or orange juice, if you are like us), and get ready for a long read, hehe! And please, readers, join in and tell us your favorite story of the Prophet/ why you love him ...

Alright, so to start off, I want you to close your eyes and imagine a day

A day :

“When the sun is folded up”,* “When the sky is split open,** and “When the sky bursts open.”**

(AbdAllah ibn Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that Allah’s Messenger (may Allah's blessings and peace be upon him) said: If anyone would like to look at the Day of Resurrection as though it were before his eyes he should recite those three surahs)

- when the children[will be] white- haired (73: 17)

- when the sun will be brought near the created beings till it is about a mile from them, and mankind will sweat according to what they had done, the sweat reaching the ankles of some, the knees of others, the waists of others, while some will have their mouths covered by the sweat and Allah’s Messenger (may Allah’s blessings and peace be upon him) pointed his hand at his mouth.

- a day when

Hell will be brought near.

In his Sahih, Imam Muslim bin Al-Hajjaj recorded that `Abdullah bin Mas`ud said that the Messenger of Allah said,
(Hell will be brought on near that Day and it will have seventy thousand leashes, and each leash will have seventy thousand angels pulling it.)

- And everyone you know...running away from you....caring about themselves only...

On the Day a man will flee from his brother (34) And his mother and his father (35) And his wife and his children, (36) For every man, that Day, will be a matter adequate for him. (80:1)

On that Day, even Prophet Moosa, who talked to Allah, will not be able to help us.....

But there will be one man who will take it upon himself to plead for us ....for his followers...

Who will not rest until he sees us in jannah with him...

'On the Day of Resurrection the people will surge with each other like waves, and then they will come to Adam and say, 'Please intercede for us with your Lord.' He will say, 'I am not fit for that but you'd better go to Abraham as he is the Khalil of the Beneficent.' They will go to Abraham and he will say, 'I am not fit for that, but you'd better go to Moses as he is the one to whom Allah spoke directly.' So they will go to Moses and he will say, 'I am not fit for that, but you'd better go to Jesus as he is a soul created by Allah and His Word.' (Be: And it was) they will go to Jesus and he will say, 'I am not fit for that, but you'd better go to Muhammad.'

They would come to me and I would say, 'I am for that.' Then I will ask for my Lord's permission, and it will be given, and then He will inspire me to praise Him with such praises as I do not know now. So I will praise Him with those praises and will fall down, prostrate before Him. Then it will be said, 'O Muhammad, raise your head and speak, for you will be listened to; and ask, for your will be granted (your request); and intercede, for your intercession will be accepted.' I will say, 'O Lord, my followers! My followers!' And then it will be said, 'Go and take out of Hell (Fire) all those who have faith in their hearts, equal to the weight of a barley grain.' I will go and do so and return to praise Him with the same praises, and fall down (prostrate) before Him. Then it will be said, 'O Muhammad, raise your head and speak, for you will be listened to, and ask, for you will be granted (your request); and intercede, for your intercession will be accepted.' I will say, 'O Lord, my followers! My followers!' It will be said, 'Go and take out of it all those who have faith in their hearts equal to the weight of a small ant or a mustard seed.' I will go and do so and return to praise Him with the same praises, and fall down in prostration before Him. It will be said, 'O, Muhammad, raise your head and speak, for you will be listened to, and ask, for you will be granted (your request); and intercede, for your intercession will be accepted.' I will say, 'O Lord, my followers!' Then He will say, 'Go and take out (all those) in whose hearts there is faith even to the lightest, lightest mustard seed. (Take them) out of the Fire.' I will go and do so...."'

Can you imagine? Can you imagine choosing to leave paradise with all its bliss for someone else? Someone you didn’t even SEE?

How could we not love such a man? The Prophet sallah Allahoo alyhee wa salam could have said: I don't care. The heck with them. I already suffered enough to bring them the message and they decided to sin against Allah?! I was mocked at….stones were thrown at me…I was boycotted…all of this for the message. And they ignored me (didn't listen to the things I told them to do)- and now, they still want my help.

You see what I’m saying? I mean he could have been content with his position with Allah, but NO....

He will ask about US-- you- me--- the ones who followed the message he brought (inshaAllah, inshaAllah)


You see? Prophet Mohammed loves us that much!

The Qur'an says:

"(The Prophet) is greatly grieved at your loss and extremely anxious for your good. For the believers he is full of kindness and rahmah (mercy, love)." (9:128)

It's only natural then, that we share this love, too, don't you think?

Let's also take a look at the ending of this well known story in which Omar RadhiAllahu anhu said that he loved the Prophet only second to himself, but then quickly changed his mind. He was later asked how he could make himself love the Prophet SallAllahu alaihi wasallam more than himself in such a short time (read the rest of the story here: ) . He replied, “I went out and asked myself whom I needed more, myself or the Prophet of Allah? I found that I needed the Prophet more. I will not intercede for myself on the Day of Judgment, but the Prophet of Allah will. My deeds will not place me in the highest of levels, but my love for the Prophet will. I did not take myself from the darkness to light, but the Prophet of Allah did. Hence, the love of the Prophet fell in my heart more than my love for myself.”

You see, Omar bin Khattab's last line about 'not taking myself out from the darkness to the light' is really the zinger (Radiya Allah Anhoo).

We love the Prophet not only for what he is going to DO, but for what he already DID for us.

Who delivered the message of Islam to us? Who was our teacher? Who sacrificed his own comfort, who was jeered at, mocked, exiled from his home country, called a lunatic, tortured, had his daughters divorced just to bring us Islam? Who had people PLOTTING to kill him?

Who was given the chance to 'have the best women/highest position/etc. as long as he stopped calling people to the Message" but instead refused to accept any bribe just to deliver the message for us--

Instead of having the 'richest riches', he lived the life of a humble servant--

“A month would pass while the family of Muhammad would not light fire in their homes. They subsisted on two things - dates and water. Some residents of Medina who were his neighbors would send milk from their sheep, which he would drink and then give to his family.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhari, Saheeh Muslim)

Yes, our prophet Mohammed! Sallah Allahoo alyhee wa salam.

You see, the question you have to ask yourself is this-

Do you love Islam?

What would your life be without Islam? Without knowing who Allah is?

We love the Prophet because Allah subhanoo Wa’ Tala CHOSE him to be the means to which we received the Revelation and learned Islam. We love him because he truly did deliver the message of Islam.

And you know what?

The Revelation itself was hard for the Prophet sallah Allahoo alyhee wa salam receive:
Aisha, may Allah be Pleased with her said: And indeed I saw him (Prophet Mohammed) when the revelation was coming down on him on a very cold day, and when it ended sweat was dripping from his forehead صلى الله عليه و سلم

Can you imagine? How much he went through for every single verse we got of the Qur’an?


What else?

We love the Prophet for his excellent manners.
Anas, his servant, swore that in his nine years of service, the noble Prophet never chastised him or blamed him for anything. Those around him described Muhammad to be so humble that even a little girl could hold his hand and take him wherever she wished. He used to come to the weak among the Muslims in order to visit the sick and attend their funeral processions. He used to stay at the back of the caravan to aid the weak and pray for them. He would not hesitate to walk with a widow or a poor person until he had accomplished for them what they needed. He responded to the invitation of even slaves, eating nothing more than barley bread with them. ( Taken from: http://www.whymuhammad.com/EN/Contents.aspx?AID=7041


Most of all, though, we love the Prophet because Allah subhanoo Wa’ Tala told us to!

"The Prophet is preferable for the believers even to their own selves..." (33:6)

Say: If your fathers, your sons, your brothers, your wives, your kindred, the wealth that you have gained, the commerce in which you fear a decline, and the dwelling in which you delight are dearer to you than Allah and His Messenger (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam) and striving hard and fighting in His cause, then wait until Allah brings about His Decision (torment). [(9): 24]


This was Allah’s Command.

And this takes us to part 2!

We absolutely cannot forget the ahadith/ or not follow them. It is the Qur’an that tells us to follow them.


Nor does he (Muhammad) speak of his own desire. It is only an Inspiration that is inspired." [An-Najm: 3-4].

"Indeed, Allah conferred a great favour on the believers when He sent among them a Messenger from among themselves, reciting unto them His Verses (the Qur'an), and purifying them, and instructing them (in) the Book (the Qur'an) and Al-Hikmah (the wisdom and the Sunnah of the Prophe), while before that they had been in manifest error." [Al-'Imran: 164].

"Say (to them O Muhammad SAAW): If you love Allah, follow me, and Allah will love you, and forgive you your sins; Allah is All-Forgiving, All-Merciful. Say: Obey Allah, and the Messenger (SAAW), but if they turn away (then know), that Allah loves not the infidels." [Al-'Imran: 31-32].

So let those beware who dissent from the Prophet's order, lest fitnah strike them or a painful punishment. (An Nur: 63)

"You have indeed a good example in the Messenger of Allah (SAAW) for whosoever hopes for Allah and the Last Day, and remembers Allah much." [Al-Ahzab: 21].

"It is not for any believer, man or woman, when Allah and His Messenger) have decreed a matter, to have the choice in their affair. And whosoever disobeys Allah and His Messenger (SAAW) he has gone astray into manifest error." [Al-Ahzab: 36].

"But no, by your Lord, they can have no Faith, until they make you (O Muhammad) judge in all disputes between them, and find in their souls no resistance against your decisions, but accept (them) fully with submission." [An-Nisa: 65].

Whoever obeys the Messenger, he indeed obeys Allah, and whoever turns back, so We have not sent you as a keeper over them. (Surah An-Nisa, 80)

And whatever the Messenger has given you - take; and what he has forbidden you - refrain from. (surat al hashr 6)

You know, the Prophet himself warned us of this 'time":

The Prophet said, “There will come a time when a man sitting upon his couch is told a hadeeth and he replies, ‘Between us and you is the Book of Allah, the Mighty and Majestic. What we find in it to be lawful, we take as lawful and what we find in it to be forbidden, we take as forbidden.’ Indeed, what the Messenger of Allah has forbidden is like what Allah has forbidden.”

Not only that but just remember. The Companions who recorded the Qur’an are the same ones who preserved the sunnah.

In fact, the hadiths are not ‘randomly’ taken as people seem to think. There is a whole science related to it-“Al Jarh wa ‘Al Tadeel’- which seeks to examine the sayings of the Prophet to determine their authenticity (in a scientific manner).

First, the hadith is divided into 2 sections: the gist of the hadith (meaning), and the narrators. Then, the meaning is checked to make sure it does not violate any Islamic concept. Then the list of narrators is exhaustively studied- it is checked to make sure that each and every narrator did in fact meet (e.g. if I say X reported that Y reported that S narrated that Prophet Mohammed said, there would be a study to conclude that yes, x, y and s all did meet). The entire chain or narrators are ‘ruthlessly’ checked- their character is studied, whether they ever lied, any situation that demonstrated they had a weak memory, etc. how truthful they were known to be, etc.

In fact, in our history, we had many people who would journey thousands of miles tirelessly to collect narrations of the Prophet and distinguish the true words from any alternation and then give these narrations a grade- it could either be ‘saheeh (basically A+), ‘hasan (B), daeef (weak/questionable), and mawdqoo (fabricated). One story has it that one of the persons who collected the hadith, Buhkhari traveled all the way to another country, thousands of miles, to find this one man who had reported the specific hadith (or something like that), but when Bukhair went and found that man, Bukhair found the man telling his mule/donkey ‘to come’ and ‘he would give it something’. Bukhair then saw that the man did not end up giving the animal what he’d promised it. Bukhair, then, instead of asking that man for the hadith, returned back home, saying that he couldn’t trust that man, even though, all he did was ‘lie to an animal’.

To read more about the classification system and this very thorough science, read Here!:


And finally, my dear, I want to point out one thing. Prophet Mohammed sallah Allahoo alyhee wa salam was an extremely humble man. He never ‘elevated his status’. He wasn’t someone who called people to worship him or anything like that.

It is reported that once a Bedouin met him; when the Bedioun saw him, he was so awed by his presence, he trembled in fear. Seeing this Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: 'Calm down. I am only the son of a woman who used to eat dry meat in Makkah (meaning a poor woman).

He also was reported as saying:

Don’t exaggerate in praising me as the Christians did in praising Jesus who was raised to the status of God’s son. I am a servant of God; therefore call me a servant and messenger of God.”

The best servant of God!

May we be with him on the Day of Judgment, under Ar-Rahman’s Throne, in gardens of bliss!

Your sisters,

p.s. Actually, although we do not know which verses were corrupted in the Bible and which were not, it is interesting to note that they have recorded Jesus as saying: Anyone who loves his father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; anyone who loves his son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me (This verse is in the middle of the verse called "The Sword verse" Matthew 10:34 ).

p.s.s. PLEASE share your favorite hadiths/ stories of the Prophet here :)

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