Love him? More like die for him...

>> Wednesday, February 2, 2011


I really love your blog and I really need your help. I’m really having low iman,I do not even know hadiths to believe these days,some hadiths really bother(can u explain a hadith about the prophet saying that a good muslim should love him(Prophet Muhammad) more than oneself).I’m having very,very low iman.

Jazak Allah girls and may Allah bless you for all that you do,

Need Help

Dear Need Help,

Asalamu aliakuam wa rahmatullah wa barkatoo, dearest Sis!

I'm sorry to hear about your low imaan, but I'm soOoOo glad that you sent this question in because you're giving us a chance to talk about the most beautiful person! Allahuma sali wa salim ala sayidduna Mohammed. Before we start though, I want to make it clear that this topic that will be very hard to give its rightful due, but we'll try to lightly touch upon

a. why we should we love the prophet more than ourselves and
b. why we should follow ahadith,

So yes, get yourself a nice cup of tea (or orange juice, if you are like us), and get ready for a long read, hehe! And please, readers, join in and tell us your favorite story of the Prophet/ why you love him ...

Alright, so to start off, I want you to close your eyes and imagine a day

A day :

When the sun is folded up”,* “When the sky is split open,** and “When the sky bursts open.”**
(AbdAllah ibn Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that Allah’s Messenger (may Allah's blessings and peace be upon him) said: If anyone would like to look at the Day of Resurrection as though it were before his eyes he should recite those three surahs)

- when the children[will be] white- haired (73: 17)

- when the sun will be brought near the created beings till it is about a mile from them, and mankind will sweat according to what they had done, the sweat reaching the ankles of some, the knees of others, the waists of others, while some will have their mouths covered by the sweat and Allah’s Messenger (may Allah’s blessings and peace be upon him) pointed his hand at his mouth.

- a day when

Hell will be brought near.

In his Sahih, Imam Muslim bin Al-Hajjaj recorded that `Abdullah bin Mas`ud said that the Messenger of Allah said,
(Hell will be brought on near that Day and it will have seventy thousand leashes, and each leash will have seventy thousand angels pulling it.)

- And everyone you know...running away from you....caring about themselves only...

On the Day a man will flee from his brother (34) And his mother and his father (35) And his wife and his children, (36) For every man, that Day, will be a matter adequate for him. (80:1)

On that Day, even Prophet Moosa, who talked to Allah, will not be able to help us.....

But there will be one man who will take it upon himself to plead for us ....for his followers...

Who will not rest until he sees us in jannah with him...

'On the Day of Resurrection the people will surge with each other like waves, and then they will come to Adam and say, 'Please intercede for us with your Lord.' He will say, 'I am not fit for that but you'd better go to Abraham as he is the Khalil of the Beneficent.' They will go to Abraham and he will say, 'I am not fit for that, but you'd better go to Moses as he is the one to whom Allah spoke directly.' So they will go to Moses and he will say, 'I am not fit for that, but you'd better go to Jesus as he is a soul created by Allah and His Word.' (Be: And it was) they will go to Jesus and he will say, 'I am not fit for that, but you'd better go to Muhammad.'

They would come to me and I would say, 'I am for that.' Then I will ask for my Lord's permission, and it will be given, and then He will inspire me to praise Him with such praises as I do not know now. So I will praise Him with those praises and will fall down, prostrate before Him. Then it will be said, 'O Muhammad, raise your head and speak, for you will be listened to; and ask, for your will be granted (your request); and intercede, for your intercession will be accepted.' I will say, 'O Lord, my followers! My followers!' And then it will be said, 'Go and take out of Hell (Fire) all those who have faith in their hearts, equal to the weight of a barley grain.' I will go and do so and return to praise Him with the same praises, and fall down (prostrate) before Him. Then it will be said, 'O Muhammad, raise your head and speak, for you will be listened to, and ask, for you will be granted (your request); and intercede, for your intercession will be accepted.' I will say, 'O Lord, my followers! My followers!' It will be said, 'Go and take out of it all those who have faith in their hearts equal to the weight of a small ant or a mustard seed.' I will go and do so and return to praise Him with the same praises, and fall down in prostration before Him. It will be said, 'O, Muhammad, raise your head and speak, for you will be listened to, and ask, for you will be granted (your request); and intercede, for your intercession will be accepted.' I will say, 'O Lord, my followers!' Then He will say, 'Go and take out (all those) in whose hearts there is faith even to the lightest, lightest mustard seed. (Take them) out of the Fire.' I will go and do so...."'



Can you imagine? Can you imagine choosing to leave paradise with all its bliss for someone else? Someone you didn’t even SEE?

How could we not love such a man? The Prophet sallah Allahoo alyhee wa salam could have said: I don't care. The heck with them. I already suffered enough to bring them the message and they decided to sin against Allah?! I was mocked at….stones were thrown at me…I was boycotted…all of this for the message. And they ignored me (didn't listen to the things I told them to do)- and now, they still want my help.

You see what I’m saying? I mean he could have been content with his position with Allah, but NO....

He will ask about US-- you- me--- the ones who followed the message he brought (inshaAllah, inshaAllah)


You see? Prophet Mohammed loves us that much!

The Qur'an says:
"(The Prophet) is greatly grieved at your loss and extremely anxious for your good. For the believers he is full of kindness and rahmah (mercy, love)." (9:128)

It's only natural then, that we share this love, too, don't you think?

Let's also take a look at the ending of this well known story in which Omar RadhiAllahu anhu said that he loved the Prophet only second to himself, but then quickly changed his mind. He was later asked how he could make himself love the Prophet SallAllahu alaihi wasallam more than himself in such a short time (read the rest of the story here: ) . He replied, “I went out and asked myself whom I needed more, myself or the Prophet of Allah? I found that I needed the Prophet more. I will not intercede for myself on the Day of Judgment, but the Prophet of Allah will. My deeds will not place me in the highest of levels, but my love for the Prophet will. I did not take myself from the darkness to light, but the Prophet of Allah did. Hence, the love of the Prophet fell in my heart more than my love for myself.”

You see, Omar bin Khattab's last line about 'not taking myself out from the darkness to the light' is really the zinger (Radiya Allah Anhoo).

We love the Prophet not only for what he is going to DO, but for what he already DID for us.

Who delivered the message of Islam to us? Who was our teacher? Who sacrificed his own comfort, who was jeered at, mocked, exiled from his home country, called a lunatic, tortured, had his daughters divorced just to bring us Islam? Who had people PLOTTING to kill him?

Who was given the chance to 'have the best women/highest position/etc. as long as he stopped calling people to the Message" but instead refused to accept any bribe just to deliver the message for us--

Instead of having the 'richest riches', he lived the life of a humble servant--

“A month would pass while the family of Muhammad would not light fire in their homes. They subsisted on two things - dates and water. Some residents of Medina who were his neighbors would send milk from their sheep, which he would drink and then give to his family.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhari, Saheeh Muslim)

Yes, our prophet Mohammed! Sallah Allahoo alyhee wa salam.

You see, the question you have to ask yourself is this-

Do you love Islam?

What would your life be without Islam? Without knowing who Allah is?

We love the Prophet because Allah subhanoo Wa’ Tala CHOSE him to be the means to which we received the Revelation and learned Islam. We love him because he truly did deliver the message of Islam.

And you know what?

The Revelation itself was hard for the Prophet sallah Allahoo alyhee wa salam receive:
Aisha, may Allah be Pleased with her said: And indeed I saw him (Prophet Mohammed) when the revelation was coming down on him on a very cold day, and when it ended sweat was dripping from his forehead صلى الله عليه و سلم

Can you imagine? How much he went through for every single verse we got of the Qur’an?


What else?

We love the Prophet for his excellent manners.
Anas, his servant, swore that in his nine years of service, the noble Prophet never chastised him or blamed him for anything. Those around him described Muhammad to be so humble that even a little girl could hold his hand and take him wherever she wished. He used to come to the weak among the Muslims in order to visit the sick and attend their funeral processions. He used to stay at the back of the caravan to aid the weak and pray for them. He would not hesitate to walk with a widow or a poor person until he had accomplished for them what they needed. He responded to the invitation of even slaves, eating nothing more than barley bread with them. ( Taken from: http://www.whymuhammad.com/EN/Contents.aspx?AID=7041


Most of all, though, we love the Prophet because Allah subhanoo Wa’ Tala told us to!

"The Prophet is preferable for the believers even to their own selves..." (33:6)

Say: If your fathers, your sons, your brothers, your wives, your kindred, the wealth that you have gained, the commerce in which you fear a decline, and the dwelling in which you delight are dearer to you than Allah and His Messenger (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam) and striving hard and fighting in His cause, then wait until Allah brings about His Decision (torment). [(9): 24]


This was Allah’s Command.


And this takes us to part 2!

We absolutely cannot forget the ahadith/ or not follow them. It is the Qur’an that tells us to follow them.


Nor does he (Muhammad) speak of his own desire. It is only an Inspiration that is inspired." [An-Najm: 3-4].

"Indeed, Allah conferred a great favour on the believers when He sent among them a Messenger from among themselves, reciting unto them His Verses (the Qur'an), and purifying them, and instructing them (in) the Book (the Qur'an) and Al-Hikmah (the wisdom and the Sunnah of the Prophe), while before that they had been in manifest error." [Al-'Imran: 164].

"Say (to them O Muhammad SAAW): If you love Allah, follow me, and Allah will love you, and forgive you your sins; Allah is All-Forgiving, All-Merciful. Say: Obey Allah, and the Messenger (SAAW), but if they turn away (then know), that Allah loves not the infidels." [Al-'Imran: 31-32].

So let those beware who dissent from the Prophet's order, lest fitnah strike them or a painful punishment. (An Nur: 63)

"You have indeed a good example in the Messenger of Allah (SAAW) for whosoever hopes for Allah and the Last Day, and remembers Allah much." [Al-Ahzab: 21].

"It is not for any believer, man or woman, when Allah and His Messenger) have decreed a matter, to have the choice in their affair. And whosoever disobeys Allah and His Messenger (SAAW) he has gone astray into manifest error." [Al-Ahzab: 36].

"But no, by your Lord, they can have no Faith, until they make you (O Muhammad) judge in all disputes between them, and find in their souls no resistance against your decisions, but accept (them) fully with submission." [An-Nisa: 65].

Whoever obeys the Messenger, he indeed obeys Allah, and whoever turns back, so We have not sent you as a keeper over them. (Surah An-Nisa, 80)

And whatever the Messenger has given you - take; and what he has forbidden you - refrain from. (surat al hashr 6)

You know, the Prophet himself warned us of this 'time":

The Prophet said, “There will come a time when a man sitting upon his couch is told a hadeeth and he replies, ‘Between us and you is the Book of Allah, the Mighty and Majestic. What we find in it to be lawful, we take as lawful and what we find in it to be forbidden, we take as forbidden.’ Indeed, what the Messenger of Allah has forbidden is like what Allah has forbidden.”

Not only that but just remember. The Companions who recorded the Qur’an are the same ones who preserved the sunnah.

In fact, the hadiths are not ‘randomly’ taken as people seem to think. There is a whole science related to it-“Al Jarh wa ‘Al Tadeel’- which seeks to examine the sayings of the Prophet to determine their authenticity (in a scientific manner).

First, the hadith is divided into 2 sections: the gist of the hadith (meaning), and the narrators. Then, the meaning is checked to make sure it does not violate any Islamic concept. Then the list of narrators is exhaustively studied- it is checked to make sure that each and every narrator did in fact meet (e.g. if I say X reported that Y reported that S narrated that Prophet Mohammed said, there would be a study to conclude that yes, x, y and s all did meet). The entire chain or narrators are ‘ruthlessly’ checked- their character is studied, whether they ever lied, any situation that demonstrated they had a weak memory, etc. how truthful they were known to be, etc.

In fact, in our history, we had many people who would journey thousands of miles tirelessly to collect narrations of the Prophet and distinguish the true words from any alternation and then give these narrations a grade- it could either be ‘saheeh (basically A+), ‘hasan (B), daeef (weak/questionable), and mawdqoo (fabricated). One story has it that one of the persons who collected the hadith, Buhkhari traveled all the way to another country, thousands of miles, to find this one man who had reported the specific hadith (or something like that), but when Bukhair went and found that man, Bukhair found the man telling his mule/donkey ‘to come’ and ‘he would give it something’. Bukhair then saw that the man did not end up giving the animal what he’d promised it. Bukhair, then, instead of asking that man for the hadith, returned back home, saying that he couldn’t trust that man, even though, all he did was ‘lie to an animal’.

To read more about the classification system and this very thorough science, read Here!:


And finally, my dear, I want to point out one thing. Prophet Mohammed sallah Allahoo alyhee wa salam was an extremely humble man. He never ‘elevated his status’. He wasn’t someone who called people to worship him or anything like that.

It is reported that once a Bedouin met him; when the Bedioun saw him, he was so awed by his presence, he trembled in fear. Seeing this Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: 'Calm down. I am only the son of a woman who used to eat dry meat in Makkah (meaning a poor woman).

He also was reported as saying:

Don’t exaggerate in praising me as the Christians did in praising Jesus who was raised to the status of God’s son. I am a servant of God; therefore call me a servant and messenger of God.”

The best servant of God!

May we be with him on the Day of Judgment, under Ar-Rahman’s Throne, in gardens of bliss!


Your sisters,




p.s. Actually, although we do not know which verses were corrupted in the Bible and which were not, it is interesting to note that they have recorded Jesus as saying: Anyone who loves his father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; anyone who loves his son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me (This verse is in the middle of the verse called "The Sword verse" Matthew 10:34 ).

p.s.s. PLEASE share your favorite hadiths/ stories of the Prophet here :)

p.+ 3's, for ways to increase your imaan, check out the "Fed Up Of the Roller Coaster Ride". May Allah renew your imaan for you :)

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athoofa February 2, 2011 at 8:52 AM  

MashaAllah that was a beautiful post. And very deep. Like you said, the sacrifices of the Prophet sallalahu alaihi wasallam did not end in this world. It will extend to the most important day- the Day of Judgement.

There are so many ahadith and stories from the life of the Prophet that shows his love and care for his Ummah. Even for part of his Ummah that he hadn't seen yet. This hadith always touches me.

One day Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) came to the graveyard and said: “O dwellers of the land of believers! Peace be upon you. With God willing, we will also join you.” Then he sighed with longing and added, “How I miss to see my brothers!”

The companions beside him said, “O Messenger of God, are we not you brothers?”

The Prophet replied, “You are my companions; my brothers have yet to come.”

The companions asked: “Then, O Messenger! How will you recognize these people from your community who have yet to come?”

Whereupon, the Prophet asked:
“If someone has a horse with white signs on the forehead and the feet, can he recognize it among black and gray horses?”

The companions replied:“Yes.”

He said: Brothers of mine will come to the Hereafter with shining organs of ablution because of the light that came from their ablutions. And I wait for them beside my Pool.

SubhanAllah :'(

There are so many more beautiful stories and narrations from the Prophet's life that will touch you. He was a leader, yet he was so humble. He was so patient with the people and the most understanding teacher. He even had time to touch the hearts of little children and talk to them.

What we need to do is get to know more about the Prophet. You know when we like a person in this Dunya (even a famour personality) we love to learn more about them don't we?

If we don't really know anything about the Prophet how can we love him? The more you read about the Prophet sallalahu alaihi wasallam he'll become more and more beloved.

May Allah fill our hearts with love for Him, Rasoolullah and for His Deen. Aameen.

TheOneWhoNeedsReminders February 2, 2011 at 10:24 PM  

The Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) was very kind to children and loved them.

He would stroke their heads out of love and would pray for their good in life.

Whenever the children came near to him he would pick them up in his arms and fondle them with great love.

Sometimes he would bring out his tongue before the child and the child would become cheerful and laugh.

If he was lying down, he would make a child sit on the soles of his feet or on his chest.

If several children were there, he would make them fall in a row and would himself sit stretching out his arms and would say, “Run up to me, who touches me first, will get a prize. “The children would come running to him. Some would fall on his chest, some would fall on his belly. He would embrace them and kiss them. [Khasail-I-Nabawi]

Whenever the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) passed by children, he would salute them, put his hands on their heads and pick up the small ones in his arms.


<3 Rasoolallah sal allau aleyhi wa salaam :)
The more i read about his kindness it touches my heart. That was a very beautiful post. made me cry jazakallah also check out this link http://seekersguidance.org/blog/2011/01/the-prophet-muhammads-love-concern-kindness-for-children/

Little Auntie,  February 3, 2011 at 6:16 AM  

I love your comments, ma'shaAllah.
Athoofa, that hadith is soooo beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing :)

the One Who needs reminders- He truly was soooo kind to children! I love how he would shorten the salah if he heard them crying (because their mothers were praying) *wub*

I'm almost tearing from your comment- it's so touching.

The amazing thing about the Prophet was how he made EVERYONE feel so special! Look at how he gave so many of his companions nicknames- "Al Farooq', "Saif Allah", etc. You know how happy you get when you get a blog award? X by a million. The Prophet just knew how to make everyone feel so happy, :)

Sallah Allahoo alyhee wa salam :)

Keep them coming.

And I"ll check out that link, insahAllah!a

AZ,  April 30, 2011 at 6:26 AM  

Assalamu'alaykum!

Well.. I love him so so much that i believe i love him more than anyone on this world, even more than myself! Huh! What a relief to say that out. ;)

U see, i came from a broken family, and as just how 'broken' i was, i didn't really know how it felt like to be a muslim. I used to hate men, i used to hate my childhood, i used to hate my life, life was so depressive, and the list could go on n on n on....

Not until i get to know this ever-beautiful- perfect(sweetest!) person! Wallahi, knowing him really gives me new life-view. knowing him, i'm now able to see the life in different light. By knowing him, i get to know the Lord of the whole universe-Allah! He has indeed taught us the greatest lesson in this world-ma'rifatullah.

SubhanAllah.. knowing him really helps me to know what ISLAM really has to offer to all of HIS creation. Despicable. It's indeed the BEST 'GIFT' Allah has given us-it is Muhammad salallahu 'alayhi wassalam..

I really love u all for the sake of Allah.
May Allah always be with u! <3

Anonymous,  July 8, 2011 at 5:18 AM  

can i be a muslim who is more fond of prophet Jesus then Muhammad ?
Jesus seems more peaceful and loving

Little Auntie July 9, 2011 at 5:57 AM  

But anonymous, that's the thing. Prophet Mohammed was soooo peaceful.

Have you heard about the people of Taif? Basically, after the Prophet's uncle passed away, the prophet had no one 'protecting' him in Makkah and he knew the people wanted to kill him...So he went to Taif, seeking their help. He had to walk about 90+ km on FOOT....but instead of responding to his call for help, the people of Taif mocked him and they lined up their children, servants, etc. to ATTACK him with stones, etc.

You know what his reaction was?

Let's hear from his own words:
...."the worse trouble was the trouble on the day of 'Aqaba when I presented myself to Ibn 'Abd-Yalail bin 'Abd-Kulal and he did not respond to my request. So I departed, overwhelmed with excessive sorrow, and proceeded on, and could not relax till I found myself at Qarnath-Tha-alib where I lifted my head towards the sky to see a cloud shading me unexpectedly. I looked up and saw Gabriel in it. He called me saying, 'Allah has heard your people's saying to you, and what they have replied back to you, Allah has sent the Angel of the Mountains to you so that you may order him to do whatever you wish to these people.' The Angel of the Mountains called and greeted me, and then said, "O Muhammad! Order what you wish. If you like, I will let the two mountains fall on them." I said, "No but I hope that Allah will let them beget children who will worship Allah Alone, and will worship none besides Him.” (Al-Bukhârî and Muslim)

He did not wish for them harm...After all they did to him, he wanted them to be guided, to know God. He refused to pray against them.

Also, when the people of Makkah made things difficult for him, persecuted him and his companions and injured his face, he could still be heard saying while wiping blood off his face, “O Allâh! Forgive my people for they know not what they are doing.”

Another thing- when the Companions and the Prophet finally returned to Mecca, after years of exile and 20 years of being 'attacked' by the Meccans, one of the Companions came in Mecca saying something like "this is the day of revenge". Prophet Mohammed sallah Allaoo alyhee wa salam told him, 'No, this day is the day of Mercy".

Prophet Mohammed - like all the other prophets- was a mercy to mankind, and extremely peaceful :)

Sister, what do you really know about Jesus, anyways? We must love him, but we don't have too much information about him, really. AS for prophet Mohammed we know everything about him- how he treated his daughters, how he cried when his 2 year old baby boy passed away, how he loved to play with children, etc. etc.

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